In the past oh's family and i never clicked, i was from the wrong side of town and his family saw it as my oh is far too good for me as they judged me by where i was from before they even got to know me.
I am anice person and think im very reasonable and take pride that i try to look at things from all angles and not just my own, this seems to be my problem at the minute.
me and oh have been together over 5 yrs now and have a LO, some of his family have now accepted me, but others havent, thi is a problem as they are all so closed knit and do everything together, were talking brothers siters, uncles aunts cousins, all very very close, and things have got worse since a reason event, where a member of oh family was taken ill, he went hospital often but a few days in i was ill and unable to look after our LO properly so asked my oh to do it as there was no one else i could have asked. This was seen as me being abit*h and a nasty peice of work, i know his family memer was ill, but his daughter needed looking after and as far as im concerned she comes before everyone, like it or lump it.
Anyway his family always invite him to places and events, in the past this has caused arguments as i have said to oh we are a couple who live together, we should both be invited to things, and the reason im not is because your family member/s dont like me- my oh never sees it as this thou and in the past has gone. the last time this happened it caused a huge row and i left with our lo ( in anger with all intentions to come back when i was calmer, he knew i would be back too ) but i could just take no more, i have never done anything to be horrible to his family, i try to be nice, over nice sometimes as i just want them to like me, or at least accept i am oh partner.
Anyway recently my Oh and not me have been invited to 2 events since our last huge argument, and has not gone, feels like he can finally see it, but now i feel his missing out on things because of me, well because his family dont like me.
In the past my oh had an uncle and aunt, the aunt never let the uncle go anywhere and was always monaing, and my oh's family hated her, as it was the uncle who was there family by blood, and his aunt the partner.
no i can almost feel his whole family bitching saying i dont let my oh do anything or go anywhere.
me and oh are not joint at the hip he still goes drinking with whoever and on football things and stag dos ect,
but like i said i feel his missing out now by standing by me- should i just accept his family will never see me as his partner so am not welcome to things and leave it at that, or stick to my guns but oh misses out on things as well.
sorry this is very very long.