anyone else feel panicky / sick when arguing with DP?

[dreamylady]

I've had several long term relationships, but only in two (this and my very first) have I had this feeling. And also like I'm becoming confused and can't think straight. I sometimes think my DP has a bit of a personality issue but then I think its' just our mutual dynamic. Then i think maybe its really normal and i should worry less.
Anyone?

i don't follow, could you explain a bit more?

just - horrible creeping fearful feeling. I don't rationally feel in fear - like of physical danger - but just sort of disorientated and my stomach all knotty.

and like I just want it to stop and him to leave me alone..

yes i do sometimes. i think it's pretty normal but without more info about your DP, it's hard to say if he's partly to blame for making you feel like that eg his style of arguing.

I think I know what you mean. I thought everyone felt like that mr something similar when they argued.

or, obviously. Not mr.

No, if we are arguing I am usually just feeling tired and pissed off. Probably mostly because we only argue when we are tired.

It depends on the specific argument, sometimes I feel very angry, sometimes upset and tearful and sometimes tired and frustrated but never really what you describe

I know this feeling very well and have learnt to be very wary of it. When it comes I unintentionally start to close off from DW and she then does the same. It all becomes a downward spiral from there unless we recognise it and reeconnect.

Maybe you are describing emotional flooding when you become overwhelmed by the feelings engendered. The adrenaline response makes your mind go blank hence the confusion, while your heart pounds and you feel panicky. It is difficult to continue a convesration when this happens and expert advice is to remove yourself from the situation for a few minutes until you are calm again.

If you ignore it and try to continue it can lead to stonewalling where the affected party just shuts down in self defence and cannot continue. This is very aggravating for the other person who thinks it is deliberate.