parents really upsetting me and really don't know what to say or do
have 4dcs older 2 are in their teens 17 and 14 younger 2 are 5 and nearly 1
i have 2 siblings who have both had first dcs in last 4 years
problem is my mum and dad treat us really differently to the others .
when dc1 was born first thing my mum said was don't ask me to babysit and she never has
never invited to family wedding as dcs not wanted etc , never visite for dc's birthdays
birthday present is a £5 note if they are luckyor even a secondhand dressing gown for dc2 . they are not poor by the way , live in a very large house expensive holidays ,lavish gifts on my dns and siblings etc
after dc3 was born we hasd a christening arranged around my parents as they were in the country they missed the service after arriving late and left after 1 hour to visit ny siblind . they then phoned to say dsil was expecting and it would be someone for my dc3 to bully dc3 was 10 weeks old at the time .still feel really angry about this 5 years on . this dn is now the apple of my mums eye ,he can do no wrong , when he bites , hits,refuses to share with my dc3, i'm not allowed to say anything beause dn is so good etc . the biting is done with no provacation (dc3 was sitting on my lap doing nothing when he was bitten this time )on my dcs part . i'm now not wanting to visit because it really upsets to see dc3 who is a really gentle wee soul treated like this
now my siblings have children my mother is overthem like a rash , comes over from france for every birthday of dns , xmas etc fly in from france at the drop of a hat if dns need babysitting etc
dc1 is nearly 18 and dc4 1 1 4 days later and my parents have said no way they can visit etc but will be over the following 2 months for my dns birthday
feeling really hurt and upset , don't know what to say . for years i defended them to dh who could see how unfairly i was treated . it was n't until my dns aRRIVED that i could see it wasn't just they didn't want to be gps buti was being treated completely differently to my sibs .
if they treated us all the same they're would be no problem . did cut contact for over a year after the christening incident but felt so guilty i contacted them again.
sorry for the terrible typing dc4 is on my lap