DH and I are having problems. Infact I don't remember a time we weren't having problems lol but I'd like some impartial advice on the situation....
DH and I have been together since I was 15, married at 19 and have been married since 1994 (I am now nearly 36 and he is 37 end of year). We have two children DD is 13.5 and DS is 7.
I have suffered from depression on and off since DD was born so I do appreciate I haven't been the easiest person to live with. I had a 'fling' in the summer of 2008 which DH 'forgave' me for although does bring it up occasionally. I work full time, am self employed and also studying. I do 90% of childcare, 99% of housework.
DH is like my 3rd child. He doesn't help me, he used to do the washing but kept 'forgetting' so we ended up with no clothes. He doesn't tidy up after himself and hardly ever does anything with the children. He's very picky with me and the children and almost acts like a petulant child himself. he is obsessed with his mobile and computer (although don't think he's up to anything tbh), only really talks to woman (doesn't have many men friends prefers women but he isn't up to anything). He does work full time but thinks I should be 'happy with my lot' and not take on too much.
Sex is an issue also, this is a bit embarrassing but here goes (I really hope my name has changed lol) DH has a problem with athletes foot its foul and smells horrendous. I told him I'm sorry I cannot do the whole hot and sweaty sex without him going to the dr to sort it. he says he keeps forgetting to make an appt. How can you forget that??????
Yes, I've put up with it for many years but i'm getting to the point now where I feel sorry for the children, I'm sick of the pickiness and as for the untidness i'm 35 fgs I want to come home to house thats not a shit hole.
Please ask questions offer advice anything. i really don't know where to go. Is this worth saving? Am I fighting a losing battle? Do I seem like a selfish bitch? Is it all me? (I sometimes wonder?) And if you've got this far you need a medal (or a coffee lol)
Thank you