Crying when seeing mummy

[romanee]

My dd (aged 1) goes to a childminder 3 days a week. When I collect her she is ususally cheerful to see me. In the last couple of weeks though she has started to cry when seeing me. She has a lovely time with her childminder and is very happy there. I am finding this very hard. Has anyone else had this experience? Any tips?

Romanee my dd does this sometimes. And sometimes it's the other way round, if she's with me and her nanny arrives she cries and clings to me. I shouldn't worry about it, just be happy that she is happy with the childminder. You are her mummy and she knows that, she will love you more than the childminder!

Poor you romanee! I've no tips - but I did have an experience of this a couple of times recently with my dd (14m). I was in pieces! People say 'at least she is really happy with the childminder' which is true, but horrible for us! I've decided to give up my job and work part-time (but not managed it yet...)

It is not unusual, I have looked after a few children who have done this. Infact, the baby I settled in last week was so pleased to see her mum, I think she didn't know whether to laugh or cry! I said to the mum, don't be surprised if she cries ocassionally when you pick her up. It is a stage that will hopefully pass, she has probably been absolutely fine all day, and she is relieved that you are back. Has she been going to the childminder a while?

My daughter and I both cry with happiness, my DS 16 did when he got his GCSE results this summer! I think we are a bunch of emotional soppies!

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My DD (14 months) does this when I collect her from visiting her father and her paternal grandparents.

Makes me feel awful (like she prefers them) and gives her father another axe to grind! (I am a good mum though).

I'd be interested to hear other peoples experiences...

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My DS has had occasional 'outbreaks' of this, sometimes he seems to cry to be double sure of my attention. I usually make sure that I cuddle him lots straight away, and pay attention to him before engaging in any involved conversation with his nanny. But I also try to be not TOO over the top in my pleasure at seeing him again....for fear of setting up in his mind that some awful ordeal is over!

THank you for all your messages. It is lovely to know I am not the only one. I am rather clinging to the hope that it is her way of showing her relief to see me - the only thing is that IF it is, why does she not cry AND want to come to me? (at the moment she cries and trys to keep with her childminder). For those who asked, she has been with her childminder for 6 months and has been very happy with it (as have I, I think it is a very good childcare solution). It is heartbreaking though!

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