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I'm absolutely fuming with DH, I'm sitting in another room ......

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sandyballs · 12/10/2005 20:03

...... dd stroppy tonight and didn't want to go to bed. She was lying on the floor playing up, wouldn't brush her teeth, wouldn't go for a wee, so I scooped her up told her it was bedtime and plopped her into bed. Offered to read a story but she cried and moaned so left her to it.

Next thing I know DH is up there "soothing" her and she is now downstairs watching the football with him.

This goes against everything we've ever agreed with our twin DDs, they have never been allowed to come down after being put to bed and they have always accepted this, so what kind of message is she getting now. Plus the fact her sister wasn't quite asleep at the time and she said about coming down as well and DH said "not you as well", charming. Soooo pissed off at the moment.

Sorry, had to get it off my chest.

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startingtobehalloweenylover · 12/10/2005 20:04

omng i would be pissed as well!

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Springchicken · 12/10/2005 20:05

My DP does this all the time. I put DD in cot knowin full well she might have a winge for 10 mins but she'll soon be off to sleep, wonder where DP is then find him on our bed with DD trying to make her go sleep {angry} grrrrrrr.
Sorry not much help, but i can sympathise!

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Angeliz · 12/10/2005 20:05

that is awful! terribly sad for her sister too.
Strong words when they do go to bed.
Feel very on your behalf!

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WigWamBam · 12/10/2005 20:06

You need to talk to him and make sure he doesn't do it again - kids love this "divide and conquer" stuff. He needs to be supporting you and backing up your decisions - if I were you I would have gone right back in, picked her back up, taken her back to bed and then taken dh to task. He's behaving badly in letting her see that he can be won over like that.

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Gobbledispook · 12/10/2005 20:06

OMG - would too be very peed off.

The other night ds1 refused to eat dinner - he didn't touch it - I told him there was absolutely nothing else so if he didn't eat it he'd go to bed with nothing.

I popped out to do something and when I came back, found dh had let him have a bowl of cereal before bed.

Talk about undermining me - I was VERY annoyed.

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sandyballs · 12/10/2005 20:06

She has been rewarded for being a brat but he can't see that

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JoolsToo · 12/10/2005 20:07

Lord! its not that bad! as long as he doesn't do it again

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charliebat · 12/10/2005 20:08

so tommorw when shes an absoulote shit hoping daddys going to be oh so nice agan be smug as shit and sit on the pc and tell him to go sort out the nightmare he created last night. Cant believe what he said to other twin

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unicorn · 12/10/2005 20:08

FORCE him to watch Supernanny .....

Consistency, consistency,consistency!!


better still - tell him you have been accepted as candidates for the programme, and a researcher is coming to discuss your 'issues' at the weekend !

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spidermama · 12/10/2005 20:09

Perhaps you could turn off the footy at 9 and tell him it's far more important he watches Jojo on Supernanny. (She often talks about how parents need to present a united front)

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spidermama · 12/10/2005 20:09

Hahaha x posts unicorn.

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ninah · 13/10/2005 08:43

unasseptable

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redeyedbloodsuckingfroggy · 13/10/2005 08:53

LOL-ninah

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sandyballs · 13/10/2005 10:25

Well she stayed up about 10 minutes and then went to bed without any fuss, but I still don't think she should have been brought down again. DH turned it all round when I spoke to him - he said he brought her down because she hadn't been to the loo (we have a downstairs toilet) and he was worried about her wetting the bed and disturbing me because he never hears her! Plus the fact she hadn't brushed her teeth and he had given her sweets, so he was worried about that. He considered bribing her with a bit of TV was worth it for a dry bed and clean teeth. I see his point now I'm less tired but I just hope she doesn't think she can do it every night.

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Ironmaiden · 14/10/2005 12:26

My dh does similar things and justifies his reasoning in such a way that I end up feeling guilty!!! I often don't give him enough credit for being the excellent father that he is, however it is so important to be consistant in your rules and show a united front to your kids. Alot of my own problems stem from exhaustion which leaves dh to pick up the pieces and I end up being the bad guy...

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Mammybadgirl · 14/10/2005 13:28

Last night I was washing the dishes while explaining to ds (18 mos) why he couldn't have anything else to eat because he hadn't eaten his dinner, blah blah blah (long explanation)...and then I turned round to find DP feeding him a pear!
Had to laugh though.

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