Anyone here never been in love

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I have been in love, love my family, my DD and there have been a couple of dogs (no real dogs) in my life that I loved, but I never had a partner that I loved.

Was to busy having fun to fall in love until DD arrived and since she got here I have not that many opportunities to find love.

I don't know if I have and I presume that the fact I don't know, means I haven't.

Even though I was with someone for 8 years

Even worse, I am only realising this now.

I hear other people's definitions or explanations of 'love' and just have never felt like that.

have felt like I could eat him without any condiments....just because I can't get enough of him...but not sure if that is lust...maybe I'll work it out before I am 100!

How old are you?

Hello Coffee, I'm not sure I have been either - not someone I could have anyway! I've fallen for a couple of blokes that didn't know how I felt but I think that was just a bit of a lust thing too. At my age, I'm wondering whether I will ever experience that total life changing feeling of being in love. To be honest, I think I'm getting desperate and I'd settle for liking and a bit of mutual respect 'cause after the all the initial stuff dies down, that's kinda of what good relationships seem to exist on. However, it's not a subject I would call myself an expert on!

How old are you?

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28 Sarah

Is it something that bothers you Coffee?

I was separated from my husband at 30 and to my shame had to face up to the fact that I had never loved him. I met someone a year later who I think I did love but it was a very unequal relationship so I'm not really sure how much was love and how much was neediness. I finally met my (now) DH just over a year after that 32 years old so while yes I have been in love it took a while!

My ex BIL moved to London at 27 at which point he was very frustrated about never having had a serious long term relationship or been in love. He was with a lot more people in a similar position once he got to London and chilled about the whole thing. He is now married with baby etc.

Not at all,

Just wondered if anyone else felt the same way.

I think my falling in love gene is missing!

Nah - you just haven't found the trigger yet

I had a friend who got married at 30 to someone who they liked but did not love. Effectively (but not quite) one of those "if you do not meet "the one" by the time you are 30" arrangements. I think she also thought her gene was missing. She met "the one" when she was 40

depends what you mean by 'being in love'. if you mean the madness and obsession, not everybody will get or tbh want that, which is a good thing imo lol. I loved my husband deeply but it wasn't mad, blind love. so yes i've been in love but that was more about commitment than a feeling. if you're thinking the hearts-and-flowers ecstasy that causes you to lose a stone without trying... i'm not sure that is love.

i get that flippy-stomach thing with my kids, even though they're in their 20s. if my boy (ok, man) eg says something unbelievably witty, my tummy flips over inside. so you could say i'm in love with my kids.

Oh Sarah thanks, I will wait till I am 40 then :)

humanheart so at what point did you decide that guy was for you?

I know loads of guys who I like, who I am attracted to. Besides I like being single, eight or nine years ago I could have done with a partner but now I am fine.

Iv had the blind obsessive love and actually don't think it was healthy or made me happy. It felt totally destructive, out of controll and maybe something i don't want to experience again.

My cousin who is in her late 30s is with a man who she has said she loves far less than any of her exs if at all. but shes very happy. They have a son and support each other emotioally and finacially with out any of the mad emotions, I'm stating to think maybe this is the best way.