struggling

[tahlulla1986]

Hi. When I met my fiance he spent a lot of time online on web cams. I didn't really like him doing it and as we became serious he promised he wouldst use them any more and hadn't used them for ages. I just found cam images from very recently when we spent a rare night apart that I spent with my mum and sister, having a girlie weekend wedding dress shopping. There's also a video from the day he proposed. We have a great sex life. We have sex just about every night and he always seeks to enjoy it. I don't understand why he'd do this. I feel so hurt.and betrayed. I'm not sure how to handle this

I would say dump him, right now.

He has no respect for you, and is effectively cheating on you.

relationship counselling. whilst he might see it as trivial porn persuit, the effet on you is much more, about respect and trust and betrayal.

he needs to understand your feelings on this matter

i mean if i decided to sing gloria gaynor everynight in the nude in front of the window and didn't see the harm in it, but dh felt differently, i am sure i would amend my behaviour and stop my pervy gloria gaynor persuit becuase i loved him

I can't even bring myself to talk to him about it. I just feel sick looking at him

Well for heaven's sake don't marry him while you feel like this. Never mind how much money you've spent and how disappointed all the guests will be, you're about to tie yourself for life to a man who makes you feel sick. My advice is, put all plans on hold till you've got this sorted out between you.