Help me put things into perspective

[wonderwooman]

Basically, DH and I ended up having another massive row last night from what was a very minor thing in the first place. This is very common now. Every argument (initially big or little) turns into a massive blow-out where all the old issues are dragged to the fore.

Whatever the initial disagreement was about ends up coming back round to the fact that I will never admit I'm wrong (of course DH NEVER is), that I'm so pig-headed I'd rather argue and that I deliberately push him to cause an argument.

These happen every couple of weeks, sometimes every week. The times in between are often very happy.

Sex is an issue. I could live without it, he can't. We frequently argue about it.

I guess what I want to know is whether this is normal...how often do other 'happily married' couples argue.

Have to go out now but just wanted to thank you Roisin and MrsNon for sharing your experiences.

It sounds like you've worked really hard to overcome your hurdles, Roisin. I only hope my DH can work at it as you did.

I was also wondering how common it is, MrsNon. That is why I was drawn to post in the first place. There are lots of threads of a similar theme aren't there? What is it like in your house at the moment? Are your dcs older? I spent most of last night wondering how to resolve it. I have decided though that my first step is to sit him down tonight and tell it like it is, that I'm seriously thinking it's over, but I can see a night of emotional turmoil ahead and it makes my stomach turn...