The sex is great but he's a bit full on.

[poshsinglemum]

I pulled for the first time in two years Saturday night and contrary to what I told myself I took him home and shagged him.

The sex is great and he phoned the next day, came round last night. was great and is coming round tonight. I thought it would just be a one ni9ght thing but mabe it's not.

He's spanish and dosn't speak much English so is definately not boyfriend material for ma as dds dad was the same and I found the relationship too difficult. I can't be bothered with language barriers.

He is full of crap and has done that I love you shit (ie; I just want to get in your pants) but I don't care. I just want a hot fling with lots of sex for a few weeks.

We met up today and he started questioning me about what I want. It's just too full on but I'd like to keep having sex with him. He says it's because spanish men are very passionate and fiery. I know he's bad news as a boyfriend but am I being unreasonable just to make it clear that I just want a fling and if he's cool with that then just carry on? So out of practice.

I am ready vor a good flaming but I just don't want to hurt him. I basically want to have my cake which is not like me and the last thing I expected from myself.

I just wanted my DH to be a fling when I first met him. No language barrier, but he had baggage and I am from another country myself. Here we are now, married for 13 years...

get a rabbit instead, sounds like it'll end in tears

I think you are seeing him too often too soon for no strings fun or anything else.

Perhaps you should put the breaks on. Saying the L word in 2 days is a bit scary but I've never been out with a spaniard so might be normal for them.

Just be honest and tell him you aren't ready for a relationship but still want to sleep with him.

Only you can tell if he's 'genuine' or not.

It wounds like you think he's a player, in which case carry on, you know you are not that into him and you'll get the sex, but I'd imagine you'll only have another couple of 'turns' before he starts annoying you in some way.

I can't see a reason (yet) for not having the cake

That would put me off. I'd have to cut him out and find someone else to shag.

The trouble is it's so much fun and it really can't be helped if we are together. One of those. It's the latin body. I think I'm going to explain tonight what I feel and say if he's ok carrying on having no strings sex then fab.

Well he certainly sounds keen,someone like that would get on my nerves very quickly but I need my own space.

He doesn't even speak English.

Seriously, find someone else to boink.

I think the nsa is a red herring; I've read other threads of yours and I think you want more than just a shag.

If this one is like your DDs dad aren't the alarm bells going off?

Is DD around and met this man?

Don't sell yourself cheap.

Oh grow up a bit! If you want to have no strings sex ad nauseum, that's fine- do it. If you are finding him OTT then no-one is forcing you to open your door and let him in ( pun intended.)
make your mind up.