My DH?s closest male friend is a twat. He is an arrogant, uptight wanker. He wasn?t always this bad, but as he gets older he becomes more conservative and offensive to me. He is emotionally stunted in the extreme. His better qualities are that he is very intelligent and I do find him funny at times (but its usually at the expense of others if I am honest).
I get along well with his partner, and the four of us socialize a fair bit. My DH and this man have known each other since they were teenagers and DH acknowledges that the friend is becoming more difficult as we all get older.
This friend has offended me on a number of occasions, mainly due to his views on maternity leave, the justice system etc. I now try to avoid getting involved in these conversations. He once completely disparaged MY profession to my face in front of all our friends. He also, as best man at our wedding, made a speech that neglected to mention me at all. It was more a speech you would make at someone?s 21st or something. It was more about my husband and things he has done over the years. Not that I needed it to be all about me, but this is a little odd isn?t it?
He generally is only pleasant to me when he?s been drinking. He avoids me like the plague at work , literally pretending he hasn?t seen me(we both work for the same large organization and our paths cross once in a while).
Phew, this is getting long. Sorry and well done if you have read this far.
I don?t want to get in the way of DH?s friendship with this man. DH can decide for himself when he?s had enough. My question is, can anyone suggest ways in which I can avoid getting wound up by this guy?
Also, what do you make of his behavior towards me? I feel like he loathes me, but I honestly don?t know why.