womens issues-how do i??

[tinkerbell41]

sorry if this tmi....how do i let my man know that the planned dressup evening(hee hee)wont be happening tomo as i just got my period early-flipping typical!!!
was really looking forward to an interesting night!!!! do i just txt him or what???dont want to get him round here with false expectations-we have been planning it for two weeks.....new to all this dating so bit unsure wot to say???

Well, if you're having sex then I don't see any reason you can't mention periods. Just pick a term and text to say "Will have to replan tomorrows games as I've got my period early/ AF has arrived / monthly visitor is here" TBH I'd just go with "period" as he may not recognise the euphemisms! And maybe promise to do it next weekend instead?

ta that wot i thought just wanted to make sure i wasnt going to make a tit of myself...
kids with me next weekend...will have to wait another two weeks-double drat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I find it hard to believe you are too shy to tell your bloke you have your period, but are happy to plan a "dress-up night"

get a grip

hee not too shy just well out of dating game(15+years)...much younger new guy and wasnt sure if there were some kinda rules i didnt know about!!!stupid body i am extremely cross with it spoiling our fun!!!!!!!!!!!!

i,d be happy enough just not sure if guy would feel the same and dont think the dress up part would work.....just dont want to be a tease with him if he not going to get any at end of it...or maybe that the wrong way to think of it???told you i,ve no idea how all this works anymore-am on a vertical fun learning curve!!!

rhad...this is a pretty new r'ship, perhaps a bit early for bloodsports ?

I wouldn't think it U of Op to want to suspend play due to her period

I think she should be perfectly able to explain why though !

Blood sports

Tell him, tinks. If it doesn't bother either of you, you may as well go ahead anyway (make sure you've got some oxy wash in the house.)

He knows you're a woman, so he knows you have periods!

fair enough, rhad x

ta guys....we only been 'seeing ' each other a few weeks and it all very new and exciting and while bloodsports wouldnt worry me i kinda dont think we at that stage yet??!! plus it will be interesting to see how he reacts. he gives out sooo many mixed messages i actually find it quite funny now...hes says he just wants to have a bit of fun but he txts and phones all the time and visits everytime he knows the kids not here...he has even asked me to go to an appt with him in couple of weeks to hold his hand then to spend day together having lunch etc!! its good in way cause it makes me feel in charge-i really think he more into me than i thought and i,m enjoying the attention without any commitment...its nice to feel in charge after so long being under the thumb....really dont know how long it will last but am enjoying it while it does if that makes sense....

any advice is very very gratefully recieved as i,m not that experienced-like to push the boundaries just not sure of how too etc so have been reading on here to get some tips!!!!!he young and sexy and i really just want to enjoy that and make the most of it without any emotionally messyness!!!

Well, first work out whether you would feel comfortable shagging when you have your period or not. Then tell him and see what he says - just as some women don't mind and others are not keen, some men are not bothered while others would prefer to steer clear. Because he might well say, well I don't mind if you don't.

steady on, tinks

I say slow down, rag week or no rag week

take a chill pill

I would say if he is "blowing hot and cold" you are not quite as in control as you like to think you are...

christ almighty < wine fog clears >

this isn't CuriousSub is it ?

nope defo not cs....ta for advice,when i said i feel in control i dont mean of him-that very very unlikely to happen-i mean of me and my emotions....i was in what i now realise(i didnt at time-took til bout 2yrs out to accept)was an ea marriage for over ten years and was so used to be under the thumb and so unhappy that its taken me a long time to get back to being me....

i now refuse to accept anyone in my life who doesnt get me,i tolerate people but inside i,m just think if you dont get me then keep on walking...i am who i am and will never change for anyone ever again and if they dont like how i look or what i wear(that was a part of my ea marriage)then they dont have to look....

i,m generally very confident but admit its often an act and dont want to make a fool of myself....

anyway on a positive note,he txt loads last night and i saw him this am,told him that tom is here and he was fine bout it-doesnt seem to worry him so that good cause it doesnt worry me...hes coming for dinner tonight....

went shopping today and have bought a pair of skinny size ten jeans to wear!!!!!havent been that size for bout ten years so i guess the gym is working!!!!!!!!

right ok, tinks x

have a good time, and I officially hate you for being able to get into size 10 skinny jeans

< gazes forlornly at unused gym membership >

hee ta af-have to literally pour myself into and probo wont be able to sit down but as i,m not planning on having them on too long i really dont care!!!!!!!!!!!i,ve lost two stone,another stone to go....

meant to say pour myself into them...

so turns out i was worrying bout nothing...had a great night and day!!!!!that pulsy thing from other thread defo works and was very much appreciated!!my head is bursting and i so need some sleeep....

ta for your advice guys...