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erection problem

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blushingm · 27/01/2011 21:41

I can't be bothered to name change so here goes

dh and i have been together 12 years and used to have a good sex life we have ds 9 and dd 5. After about 8 years dh started getting a really tight foreskin and ended up getting circumcised - after a bit of a rough time recovering he healed well.

Now here comes the problem - he has no problem getting hard - he often wakes up with a hard on - and during foreplay can remain hard but when ever we even get close to penetration he goes soft. He says he wants to have sex but this is frustrating both of us.

has anyone any idea where we go from here - we both want sex but it's just not happening and it's really getting us both down

any advice would be appreciated

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tallwivglasses · 28/01/2011 21:28

Oh god I can't believe no-one's answered this after a whole day! Can't help, I'm afraid, but at least he's willing (and you're sympathetic).

A trip to the Dr? Or google if you dare? A weekend away just the two of you?

Okay, here's a couple of suggestions - missionary but with your legs straight...OR grasping the base of his penis while he's inside you...AND talking dirty.

hth Blush

ps I killed a thread talking about the squeeze method for prem. ejaculation. This may be my last ever sex advice post!

Bearskinwoolies · 29/01/2011 16:30

My dh and I are in the same situation and have been for a couple of years now; I wish I could say this is good advice but we're still struggling with it.

I would advise your dh going to your gp for a blood test to check his testosterone and iron levels; a friendly chat with the dr whilst he is there may help give him some ideas as to why this is happening.

My dh has had this for at least three years; his gp has told him that there are no apparent physical causes for it apart from his smoking. He hasn't quit yet. Sad

NoNamesNoPackDrill · 29/01/2011 16:37

Get him to ask the GP if he can try Viagra. Even if it psychological it will still work.

witch6 · 29/01/2011 23:18

Have to point out that GP only allowed to prescribe Viagra on NHS for fixed medical reasons.
They can give private prescriptions though.
They could refer you for psychosexual counselling- be prepared for long waiting list though (not part of 18 week target, if this is still running)...

mrscardel · 29/01/2011 23:54

Hi (wasn't as brave as you I named changed)

could of written this post myself, I did google it the other day and it came up with a lot of stuff. But it did suggest that this often happens if Dp often masturbates while using porn.... not for one minute suggesting this is the cause but thought it worth letting you know

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