Relationship advice

[britflick]

I suppose I'm looking for a bit of relationship advice really. I've been with my partner for 16 years now, and we have a 2 year old son.
I know I've always suffered from low self esteem, and since having a baby I'm even less confident about my body. Problem is, we so rarely have sex now, and this is becoming a problem.
We never spend any time together without our son, and an argument about this today has led me to suggest that we split up.
He says I'm not affectionate anymore, and he's right. I suppose I feel I'm on auto pilot now. Going to work or looking after my son, there's no time for anything else.
It feels like I'm living with my best friend and fellow parent, not my partner. Don't know what to do.

Why don't you spend time together without your son? Are you able to find and afford a babysitter?

It is so hard when you have a baby or toddler to find the time to be a couple, but you need to get that closeness back in general and then the intimacy will follow.

You had 14 years together before you had a baby, which is a long time as a couple. Can you try and remember the things you used to do together?

Yes babysitting is a big problem. Family need a lot of persuading. Can you book childminders just to do the odd evening or afternoon?

You can if you get to know someone and they're available. Do you know of any local childminders? If you do or a friend does, you could ask if they're interested in doing the odd afternoon/evening.

Do you have any teenagers locally that you would trust? I have found it good to build up a relationship with friends/teenage neighbours and get help this way rather than family.