Does it count as an emotional affair if

[littleearthquakes]

you are a straight woman and the person you may or may not be having an EA with is also a straight woman (albeit a single one)

Isn't that just a close friendship?

If your partner could see what was going on, would he get upset? If so then yes.

If you imagine it from your husbands point of view, or from you point of view if it was your DH & a male friend having an EA.
How would you/he feel about it?

Do you talk about your DH with your friend and betray intimacies?

uhmm... there is always a first time

Do you feel as if you are, or has someone suggested that's what's happening?

It's more than a friendship if:

1. there is sexual chemistry between the two of you.
2. there is any element if secrecy involved.
3. you wouldn't be comfortable with your partner seeing how you were with this person, overhearing conversations, texts, emails etc.

Think there might be another point about the level of intimacy of your conversations as well.

From Shirley Glass.

I'm not sure, which is why I'm asking. I have several close female friendships (wouldn't survive without them!) but none like this.

We've never said we're physically attracted to each other but have become very close in a very short space of time. My relationship with DH has been up and down and I've sounded off to her about him, but then I do the same to one or two other select friends (who often also use me as a sounding board).

I do have to make an effort to be nice about DH, or even talk about him, which I've noticed and am rectifying.

There's no element of secrecy, she and DH have met and he even jokes about her being my secret lesbian crush - I think he might be a little jealous of her but nothing serious. If I was spending so much time with a man I think it would rightly be an issue.

We do however send each other texts and emails which sometimes get very intense in terms to telling each other brilliant we think the other is. I hadn't thought of it as an EA until last night when a text conversation went into the early hours and comparisons were made which if we were both gay or she a man I think would probably sound very suspect...

Am feeling a little confused by it to be honest and hoping I'm just getting wound up about nothing

are you physically attracted to her though? the answer to that question might clear things up for you