What next?

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My partner has been having an affair for 18 months - I have known about it for 9 months.

He refuses to leave the house despite being asked and they are going to live happily ever after of course. For the sake of the DCs we do not argue infront of them and he sleeps in the spare room.

She has not left her partner, he does not know about it and they are off on a family holiday to Florida!!

In peoples experience, do they think this is going anywhere and she will leave her partner.

I want out and have now started legal proceedings and know it should not bother me but for the sake of my DCs, I just wonder what the hell is going on.

You have my sympathies, I lived that very hell once myself. In my case my DH and the OW did leave their marriages and move away together.
Nothing worse than that 'Can't commit either way' phase, by the end I just wanted him out of my sight. I had to start divorce proceedings to get rid of him. He and OW now living happily ever after
And of course it should bother you, he's your husband. I think half the problem in this situation is the marriage might be over but when you still live together you can't move on. Get divorcing him

Partner not husband, sorry. Still get a solicitor onto the twunt!

she wont leave her fella, she wuld have done it by now if she was.

wuld - would