I'm not sure really where to start and how to explain my situation properly.
OH and me have had some serious problems in the past and we are living seperately.We are now giving things another go but are taking things slowly.
Some of the issues we had were.
He wants more attention than I can give.for instance he will ring me several times during the day and several times in the evening.And complains if I don't do it as much.Yet I have to look after the children and spend time with them of an evening.I find him very needy.He seems to want us to behave like a lovesick couple of teenagers.
He wants more sex than me(yet we have sex several times a week but he wants more).I believe in quality not quantitiy.
My complaint about him is that he is lazy.When we lived together he didn't help around the house.wouldn't fix any minor things around house.I did it all.slept alot or watched TV.On holidays spent his time either sleeping or watching TV.There were other things which I don't want to disclose.
so since getting back together he has been coming around at weekends and maybe once during the week.And things seemed to be going well.He has been less demanding of attention sexual or otherwise and other things had changed.
for the last couple of months I've had alot to deal with because my eldest has been coming upto her exams and so I have been giving her alot of attention and help with revision etc.On top of this I've had alot of sleepless nights worrying about her.So this week is the first time I've managed to get any sleep.Anyway OH rings asks if he can come around.I explained it was a bit short notice as I hadn't arranged a meal to include him and would get back to him on it.His reply was doesn't matter and he went into a sulk.This is his typical reaction when I say he can't come round because of something(which is not often).
Anyway later he rings back saying he's upset and that he feels there are still problems with the relationship and that I haven't changed.I ask him to explain.He says no that I should know because he's told me what the issues are in the past( I believe he was referring to lack of attention and sex).I replied that I had thought things were going well.(I thought he had realised that in the real world you can't give each other constant attention and sex and was being less demanding).It seems now that is not the case he has just been backing off while I spend time with our daughter and then expected the focus to go back on him.
He lives on his own and only has to look after himself.I have the children to care for.
Is he living in the real world.Surely real relationships aren't like that.