help me cope and deal with this please?

[OnlyWantsOne]

My dd1 (who is 4) has been having random ad hoc contact with her biological father since last July.

Any way, most of it has been supervised. CAFCASS have decided that he doesnt pose a risk to her, and is capable of her needs. However, I hate the man, with all of my body hate him. Its not some thing I will get over, and it wont change, he put me through horrific things and I wont forgive him. I have tried, but I cant.

How do I deal with it, when I have to force DD to go with him at contact, when she is some times reluctant to go, when my X doesnt even speak to me? Not even a hello.

He wont discuss her needs with me, and I want to say things to him like I would my mum / baby sitter, like, she's probably tired etc, could do with a quiet time, please take care of her, if shes sad and wants me give me a call - but I cant as he just walks away. Help

Plus how do I cope when he is allowed to drive around with her / take her off to meet his family etc

because at the moment its filling me with dread and worry

Oh i'm so sorry this is happening to you, this is very close to home for me as I have feared it happening to me so I hope you get some good advice hun.

If you have the gut instinct that he does pose a risk my reaction would be to move away and make it a real hassle for him to get to your dd or if possible don't tell him where you are which may only work if he doesn't know where you work or your family members.

Does he pay maintenance? Has he only just come into contact with her since she was born?