Can't believe I'm actually doing this, but it just goes to show I've reached rockbottom.
Just read a similar story to mine, so I'm obviously not unusual. My husband and I have been together for 23yrs, married for 15. We have a lovely 10 yr old son. Things have been going downhill steadily for years really, but I have finally got him to actually acknowledge it (took an e-mail to do it, as, like many men, he's incapable of talking about his feelings). There's just a complete lack of emotional response from him - forget about sex (an annual occurrence, if I beg hard enough), he can't even give me a cuddle or a proper kiss, and seems to do his best to be as far away as possible from me. The stupid thing is, I still love him, and he says he still loves me, but I just feel completely alone and unloved, very sad and trapped.
He's had a lot of problems at work, but this seems to be something which happens at every job he has - he says I'm not supportive, but I've just had enough, and he doesn't appreciate that I need support as well.
I spent all day yesterday on the brink of tears, and actually went off to have a cry in private several times so our son wouldn't know. Of course, husband didn't notice, or maybe just didn't care. Only when our son had gone to bed, and I let it all out, did he reluctantly comfort me - I suggested relationship counselling, which he agreed to at the time, but I have a feeling he'll back out of it - he just thinks we're "not compatible" anymore. Really don't want to leave as it would devastate our son, so where can I go from here?