Where oh Where Has My Mojo Gone????

[CDMforever]

For quite some time now, maybe just under a year, I haven't had much of a sex drive at all.
On average me and DH are having sex about once or twice a week (usually once but never less than this). He thinks this isn't enough.
I have 2DCs aged 2 and 4 and feel so tired all the time. All I want to do when I get into bed at "bedtime" is sleep.
The rare times we have when the children are in bed and DH gets fruity, early on the evening, I do feel more up for it.
Last night we began making love and I felt so tired that I couldn't stop yawning. DH got in a mood and asked me why I couldn't just pretend to be enjoying it. But surely thats not right??
How do rediscover your sex drive when you've ggot young kids or is that just an impossibility?

Should just add that every other aspect of our relationship is good. He's very supportive of me when I've had a bad day with the kids and need some time to myself.
We get on very well most of the time and he's loving and always telling me how much he loves me.

Sounds like your relationship is great, and that this is just a little (pardon the pun) 'hump' (!!).

He's probably frustrated, which is why he said what he did about you pretending to enjoy it. You say you are more into it when you're less tired. And it sounds like you want to get back into more regular and enjoyable sex with him, which is very encouraging.

Find time for each other. If you're more into it early evening, why not do it then? Sex doesn't just have to be done in the bedroom, at bedtime. Do it on the sofa when the kids are asleep, or on the kitchen worktop!

Do you have family/friends nearby who would babysit while the two of you went out for a nice meal or to the cinema now and again? 'Date nights' are important in order to avoid you falling into the 'parenting/work' trap and forgetting that you are also adults and people in your own right. Your relationship is important.

Put the kids to bed half an hour earlier a couple of nights a week, have dinner together and then an early night. You might wonder why you ever stopped!

Blimey... once or twice a week when you have 2 young kids is good going I would say!!

i agree with bubblewrapped I only have 1 kid an my partner only gets 2-3 times a week.

being a mum is hard work, my baby is a hand full aswell so i spend my days running around like a loon after her lol and then i am nackerd by the time he finish's work and i get the baby to bed, at the end of my days i just want to relax lol

Thats reassuring bubble and sweet! My friends would probably agree - who have young kids - but that doesn't seem to cut the mustard with DH!
Kikijane, you are so right. I can't remember the last time we went out just us two! Its worth a try!

Definitely. It really does sound like you have a great relationship and that you don't want to just let it slide. Good luck!

Thanx, will talk about going out together tonight. Might even splash out on some new underwear!! Easy tiger!

Hahaha! Excellent :)

erm, please excuse my honesty but I wouldn't consider my relationship great if my dp ever suggested that i have sex and 'pretend to enjoy' it so he gets his own way!

I know primrose, it was annoying when he said that but I think he was just frustrated. We had a chat tonight and he apologised. He knows I get very tired.
I think we do need to reschedule our rumpy and see if that improves matters.

Thats good to hear! It sounds as though you have a close and open relationship, I also agree with the others - twice a week with 2 dcs is impressive!!