So what am i called now?

[susiedaisy]

Recently separated from H and will be divorced b4 end of year, and have been wondering what do i call myself now, still my married name with Mrs b4 it or am i a Ms now? Don't really want to keep his name to be honest but not sure how DC will take it if i changed my name but not theirs, what has anyone else done?

"i see it as someone who couldnt keep a 'Mr' or could never make a 'Mrs'"

I think you're a bit out of date there, AnotherMumOnHere.

I've always been a Ms, before I married, while I was married (kept my own name) and now. I managed to 'keep a man' for 18 years until he went and died on me. I don't think my marital status defines me, so I use Ms.

Debrett's says you're still a Mrs post-divorce (as Miss is supposed to denote a virgin!)

When I attend functions at Buck House, the footman announces me as Mrs MyMaidenName.

(I never have attended one, in case you're wondering )

I guess if she sees it as someone who couldn't "keep" a Mr or "make" a Mrs, so be it!

What a crock

Debrett's says you can use Ms when you're divorced. (you can keep Mrs but you get to use your own initial

it also says you can be called whatever the hell you want to be called, and people have to abide by it!

That's great news, nickel! I'll tell the footman I'm a Ms

Grace!

when i think of Ms it remnds me of a school teacher i had when i was about 5 she looked (to me) to be about a 110 years old and never married but had cats!

"I've been a Ms since the age of 10 or 11 and my SAHM couldn't explain why she had to tell the milkman she was married, but my dad didn't."

Pretty much my reasons too. What possible legitimate interest could most of the people who I come into contact have in my marital status.

I feel rather bemused by the "couldn't get or keep a man" idea. Because of course, I am completely defined by that, aren't I?

well i am a Mrs and my man walked out on me - much woe etc etc - so there you go!

I went back to my maiden name about two years after I divorced, but kept it when I remarried. DSs didn't mind, and it helped me feel I had got my identity back. I was never happy with my married name, it never felt like me. In fact, on a couple of occasions I ignored people who addressed me by it because I'd forgotten that was now my name

"Debrett's says you're still a Mrs post-divorce (as Miss is supposed to denote a virgin!)"

I chose to go back to being a miss, so that's highly appropriate. OK maybe not, or only if I was 44 yo virgin who'd undergone five immaculate conceptions

AnotherMum Loving the Chubby Brown send-up! Do you take bookings? (She is joking, isn't she?)

AnotherMumOnHere What are you on about?

I'm a Ms, and remained a Ms while I was married, and now am still a Ms now I'm separated.

Then again, I am a bit of a slag.

I kept my married name and just changed to Ms. My children always had their dad's names so I won't be reverting back to my maiden name which I never liked.

I don't really care what title I'm given. I'm not 'Miss' because I kept my married name after divorce. Miss MyMarriedName is my XH's sister, or my daughter.

But whenever people say "is it Mrs or Ms?" I'm never sure. I just say..."whatever -- I don't care".

You can call yourself whatever you wish. I reverted to using my maiden name (though I am not divorced) and you do come up against a lot of "why have you changed your name" or the assumption that you have divorced and they then want decree absolute etc

No one needs to know the reason you have changed your name, as you are entitled to use either. I got several copies of my marriage certificate and used these to inform companies (bank, passport etc) that I was reverting to using my maiden name

What Kiki said. Also loving the thought it may annoy ow or xh at some point in the future

what an utterly knobbish comment.

Oh yeah, it really annoys XH's new fiancée, and that's enough for me!

Have always been a Ms whatever my marital situation - totally irrelevant to anyone else whether I'm married or not.

Topspin me too. Ms = female equivalent of Mr. What's not to like?