What the hell is wrong with me?

[mslady]

Ok my SIL is best friends with Dh ex girlfriend...why can't I just get over that?
Seems like I am always comparing myself to her?..She is very pretty by the way.
In the past she has tried flirting with my dh & all & she & I had it out b/c she insulted my parenting( which absolutley crossed the line in my opinion)....I have forgiven her I just don't want to be around her or have anything to do with her....why do I constantly compare myself to her?
Am I just jealous?

think about it this way.... you're the one he's with!

Is there a possibility that we are jealous of each other?.....lol.....I don't know why I just can't let it go.

Im not sure if it's an insecurity, more like a issue of the disrespect she has shown towards me.
Yeah, there is some insecurity there I won't lie...she is gorgeous, but my problem didn't start until everyone thought it was ok for her to treat me like shit.....That's the part I just cant understand. That's what pisses me off....I just don't get why I'm here feeling like crap by being kind to her (until she spoke negativily about my parenting) & everyone(my inlaws) think Im tripping & she is just the bees knees....makes me think she was their relative instead of me.

I am cool with his other exs by the way

oh, well she has been paired off with quite alot people since dh & I have been together. I have no need to try to hook her up. Don't think that she is much the person to care about being in a relationship, nor does she respect other peoples relationships. I think that she is kind of an attention whore. & it makes me mad that I am giving her what she wants by being affected by her behaviour...I'm just not as strong as I thoughtI was. I am just wondering If MY behaviour is normal?

oh, well she has been paired off with quite alot people since dh & I have been together. I have no need to try to hook her up. Don't think that she is much the person to care about being in a relationship, nor does she respect other peoples relationships. I think that she is kind of an attention whore. & it makes me mad that I am giving her what she wants by being affected by her behaviour...I'm just not as strong as I thoughtI was. I am just wondering If MY behaviour is normal?

oops, posted twice...sorry.

Thanks Tre...I have heard from alot of my friends that they would have punched her, & I also have heard that I need to be the "bigger person"...I was just wondering if I was being irrational