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Marriage Between Cousins.....

55 replies

Fangache · 07/10/2005 15:19

Found a fab website that answered all my queries J&BM!! I am now educated:

Some people are fixated on the fallacy that cousin couples pose an intolerable risk to their offspring. However it is likely that we are all descendants of cousin marriages. Before civil laws banning cousin marriages, it was preferable to marry a cousin in some communities as it is to this day in many countries. The notion ?why marry a stranger" is just as prevalent in many countries as the cousin marriage taboo in America today.
There is a wide range of opinions on the subject of cousin marriages. This is fuelled by erroneous information, bigotry, and presumptions. Further we have civil laws and religious creeds based on obsolete information.

The facts about cousin marriages are much clearer.

There are no contemporary studies that indicate cousins have children with significantly higher than normal birth defects. Fears of cousins who marry having children with birth defects are indeed exaggerated. Simply marrying within your own race increases the odds of birth defects. Marrying within your own town further increases your chances. Cousin couples have only a slightly higher incidence of birth defects than non-related couples.

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happymerryberries · 07/10/2005 16:21

Repeated co sangionous marriages are the problem I think. Haemophilia and porperia both crop up in the royal families of europe, in part because similar sets of genes were mixing, so uncommon conditions were cropping up more often than is usual.

If you keep repeatedly breeding into the same gene pool you also run the risk of finding it very difficult to find tissue types that match if you need organ transplants. This can be a major probelm in some Bangladeshi communities.

Fangache · 07/10/2005 16:21

It happens.

Anyway this thread isn't about incest!!!!!!!

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happymerryberries · 07/10/2005 16:21

Stitch the royal families of egypt did it all the time!

LadyFioOfTipton · 07/10/2005 16:22

what the hell do you want me to tell? I know they all the product of incest and that is all

aloha · 07/10/2005 16:22

Brother and sister relationships happen more often when they are brought up apart.

expatinscotland · 07/10/2005 16:23

Charles Darwin was married to his first cousin.

happymerryberries · 07/10/2005 16:23

Particularly where some half brothers/sistes don't know that they are related, never having known their fathers

LadyFioOfTipton · 07/10/2005 16:24

sorry stitch my last message sounded a bit agressive, i meant in a sort of jokey i dont know Im dumb kind of way!

stitch · 07/10/2005 16:28

sokay lady.
i have always been fasciated by the psychology behind incest. not the sort where they dont know they are siblings, but where they do. i have never understood how desperate the individuals involved must be to start fancying their siblings.

jessicaandbumpsmummy · 07/10/2005 16:31

Im trying not to take offence at a few bits on this thread.

Yes, me and my husband are first cousins.

No, there is no other family history of doing so, and dont intend on there being in the future if at all possible.

It was just fate that brought us together, and Jess is the most perfect little angel you could ever meet. Much further advanced than her 14 months in everyone's eyes.

Fio - Dont worry about me being so close to giving birth - the sooner the better in my opinion hun x

GhostofNatt · 07/10/2005 16:32

once snogged a first cousin - nothing worng with it

Fangache · 07/10/2005 16:33

JABM - This really was not my intention with this thread!! I hope I haven't posted anything offensive, I actually thought this thread would help. Really sorry.

Stitch.... please could you start another thread if you want to discuss incest as this thread is NOT about that!!!!!

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jessicaandbumpsmummy · 07/10/2005 16:47

its not you fang.... dont worry.

happymerryberries · 07/10/2005 17:29

I hope it wasn't me either, the point I made was about the geneic probelms that happen if it keeps getting repeated over many generations, not the case for you I realise

jessicaandbumpsmummy · 07/10/2005 17:30

hmb, nope not you x

CeeTee · 07/10/2005 20:56

eeeeeeeewwwwwwwww, sorry, but eeeeeewwwwwwwww.

jessicaandbumpsmummy · 07/10/2005 20:59

Well thanks for that CeeTee - its exactly the sort of thing I was hoping to AVOID.

aloha · 07/10/2005 21:00

Take no notice! Really.

munz · 07/10/2005 21:04

well I don't see the problem with it - what ever flicks ur switch! lol.

(must admit bro/sis would be odd to me personally - but hey all that matters is said adults are happy their children are well adjusted and healthy so who gives a damn)

weesaidie · 07/10/2005 21:07

My cousin used to fancy me. Pity he is one of the dullest people I know!

Miaou · 07/10/2005 21:12

CeeTee, did you read this thread at all before posting?

Dh went out with his first cousin for quite some time. Can't say I ever thought twice about it.

Nightynight · 07/10/2005 21:21

I have a first cousin marriage in my ancestry.

teeavee · 07/10/2005 21:30

my mum's family is from anglesey - there's probably more than a few marriages betwen cousins in my ancestry, therefore! So what??? there's a relatively strong probability that 1st cousins may end up together when you think about it

shannen · 07/10/2005 21:30

I'm not sure what I think about marriage between cousins.

On one hand, yes it is legal and you can't control who you fall in love with....on the other it isn't exactly the 'norm'.

Good luck to JBM, but I can (kind of) understand others who might think differently.........

jessicaandbumpsmummy · 07/10/2005 21:34

I dont need luck.... I fell for my best friend, he just happens to be my cousin.

Neither of us really think about it now, and neither do the family.

This is all CODS fault....... bloody woman!!!

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