No contact with dad but what about the Grandparents

[willysmum]

My partner and i have recently separated after i left the family home due to his "control freak" ways.
We have a 6month old son and he wants nothing to do with him. Hes told me "dont bother chasing me for money, i dont even think hes mine" i know he means this and know he wont change his mind as he said from the outset he doesnt want to be a part time dad ( he has 2 other children from his previous marriage who he sees twice a week)

Anyway hes insistant that his parents should see our son on a regular basis, ive told them they are welcome round anytime and can take him out whenever they want to which they said " oh we wont do that, we're not that type of people" I have an ok relationship with them but they see it as my duty to take him round to them (i dont have a car and they are about 40 mins away) and i really dont want to sit there making polite conversation with them while they are thinking that i am scum of the earth ( i ended the relationship and am on housing benefit). Has anyone else been in this situation and does it work? Thank you x

Do you mean will he be scarred for life if he has no contact with these people?

I would say not as they seem to have no interest in him so I wouldn´t force anything tbh.

You have let them know that they can see him if they want.

If they choose not to then that is their loss.

I really dont know what to do

I wouldn't even bother taking him round there TBH, if they want to be a part of his life so badly they will make the effort to come to you. Also i would deffinately be chasing the dad for money, he can't just aact as if his son doesn't exist!