how do i go about marriage counselling

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just need a bit of advice
i am starting to feel that my marriage is over we've been married 3yrs now and i feel undervalued, and fear that my husband is starting to show controlling tendencies??? i feel v. little sexual attraction to him and we live very seperate lives (i watch tv/read a book he's on laptop etc)
i find myself fantasizing about being single a lot
i think we should try counselling but don't know where to start

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Have a look here , enter your postcode and contact your nearest centre.

Is your husband up for counselling too? If so then contact relate or look on the BACP website and search for therapists that do couples work. If he's not then there's little point forcing him, but hopefully asking him will help you talk about what's going on and he may then consider it.

thanks for replies i'm gonna talk to him about it tonight.

think relate must be an english thing?? i'm in scotland nearest place is 78 miles. u think GP could help?

GP may be able to get you some counselling but it will be short term and of a specific type. Have a look at the BACP website, it explains a lot about counselling and has a "find a therapist" link. There may also be other charities in your area that could help.

thanks going to look at that now

Search on the internet for Marriage Care - they are a national charity working with people with relationship difficulties. I volunteer for them as a counsellor, and I admire you for having the bravery and common sense to look for help relatively early in your marriage. In my experience the sooner you seek help, the more likely the counselling is to be beneficial.