A few months ago I got in contact again with someone from my past on facebook. I friended him when I saw him on an old friend's profile and apart from a brief hello e-mail, haven't been in contact.
We're both in our forties and I knew him in my late teens/early twenties through the music we were into and bands etc. We lived in different cities, but he used to come to where I live every six to nine months and twice we got it together.
I knew (via our mutual friend) that he liked me when we first met, but I was going out with the mutual friend at the time.
So a couple of weeks ago he posted a link to a band I used to love saying how great they were. I sent him an e-mail saying good link, how are you etc.
Since then we've been e-mailing and chatting online for a couple of hours several times a week. He lives in France and is divorced with two kids. He is coming over next month to see family and has arranged to come and see me for a couple of days.
I have no idea how he sees this, it's been friendly and chatty more than full-on flirty. So he told me he worked over there and is looking for a new job, but posted on a friend's wall that he was unemployed. I e-mailed him saying 'which is it' and he said yes, contract coming to an end, so I will be unemployed.
Am I over-reacting in thinking he's not being straight? My ex was very abusive and lied from day one, so I am hyper sensitive to being mislead. I also have no radar as to whether he likes me?
Any advice?