where do we go from here.

[spookycharlotte121]

I have been seeing a by for 2 months and everything seemed to be going really well. He wad great with my kids we got along fantastically and everything was good. He is an avid fan of our local football team so out was no surprise to me when he said he wad going to Scotland to watch them in an away game. He came bk as planned, was good usual affectionate self and took me out to dinner as he had missed me so much. The following day I got a message on Facebook from his ex. There was no text just a copy of a receipt showing he had spent the weekend with her in southampton. I have confronted him and he had no choice but to tell the truth. He wants to make things good between us but im not sure if there is any going bk from this. We haven't been together that long, this is supposed to be the easy bit. I slide I could just do with some advice.

I think it is cruel, they do something wrong and then they don't leave you alone to think.They are scared that if you do then you will see sense!
So they go on and on at you until you crack, but you are right he proberly won't change, there was no reason to do that.No one is perfect and sometimes people do make mistakes, but sometimes people do things just because they can get away with it.

Thing is do you want to find out which catagorie he fits into.Tell him to back off and sort your head out.Then when you feel strong enough meet him and tell him

Good luck

Tough shit if he's sorry. He cheated on you. He deliberately planned and lied to cheat on you. You're right, there is no undoing this and no excuses.

When someone decides to cheat on you they have decided to blatently disprespect you. He obviously has things to work out in his head. Don't let him work them out on your time and with your heart.

Ignore him, tell him it's over. He doesn't deserve a chance to 'make it right' He had that chance before he stuck his dick in his ex.

He did tell me it wad coz he took advantage of the situation and thought he could get away with it. I do feel really stupid.

You're not stupid, but he is a complete arsehole. Tell him he's dumped and if he doesn't leave you alone you will call the police and make a complaint of harassment (don't worry, you won't have to do this as you won't see him for dust).
What's he's doing is basically seeing if you'll eat shit or not. Some people's preferred method of running their sex lives is to have a 'primary' partner who they run to (usually someone who's good at providing home comforts) and endless shags on the side: people like this will often breach monogamy early on to see if the new partner is the sort of mug who will accept an apology and believe a promise not to do it again.

(This is not to say that someone who has a drunken shag in the very early stages of a relationship is a 'cheater', necessarily, but this bloke seems to have gone about it in such a calculated fashion that he really doesn't sound worth bothering with).

You are not stupid, he is

Thank goodness you've found out fairly early on - tell him to bugger off back to his ex, who hopefully will also tell him where to go. You deserve far far better.