Long story short, DP and I start arguing about nothing (literally, he got annoyed because he thought I had left something on his pillow intentionally and then didn't want to talk to him) after he has been out drinking with work.
DC wakes up, comes in my bed, he is still going on about various petty things and just being generally rude. I lose my temper, tell him to shut up. He pinches me (not terribly hard) repeatedly on my side, I ask him not to touch me and he continues to do it, I pinch him back (harder than he was pinching me) and he hits me in the face (again, not really hard, no bruises etc). DC is awake and in the middle of us at this time.
Can see he has lost his temper so picked DC up and tried to leave the room, he grabbed me and grabbed DC legs, screaming that I can't take DC away. At this point I felt like the only thing that mattered was getting DC away. Go into another room, he follows, grabbing my arm and trying to get me to turn around. I am crying loads at this point and begging him to just leave us alone, I say I am going to call my Mum and ask her to pick us up and he takes my phone and throws it.
He continues to be confrontational, invading my personal space, getting right in my face etc. I lock me and DC in the bathroom and eventually he calms down at which point he has gone from angry to ridiculously upset and remorseful. I have basically spoken to him today and said that I am done and it is over, it is one thing to behave like a cunt when it is just me but not in front of our daughter.
We are supposed to be moving into new house in a couple of weeks and he is now basically saying that I am overreacting and shouldn't be throwing everything away, where am I going to live etc? I have tried to be as objective as I can whilst writing this out, I don't think I am overreacting, just because he didn't actually do any of the above things hard enough to genuinely hurt me isn't really the point, is it? I don't ever want my child to witness something like that again, it was horrendous (and I was THAT kid, my step-Dad was frequently violent towards my Mum in front of me).
He did hit me once when I was pregnant and has been physically aggressive with me in the past but he doesn't see that as 'him' iyswim, just blips where he has been provoked (and I do provoke him, I am not entirely innocent here). Sorry, this is long but any words of wisdom appreciated.