Sorry cant shake this off still angry went to DP mothers their dog bit my son no sorry or anything...

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I think I have an issue? Is it because Im pregnant? Am I going mad please tell me how you would feel.. We went to DP mothers and step dads christmas day the dog had already had a go at my son before and I said I dont want to go and take my DS as the dog is a pain in the arse. I felt ill all christmas morinig and wanted to make soemthing up so as not to go. I was told by everyone not to worry there are loads of us there it will be ok. We got there and the dog was ok. Then after about an hour or so my DPs sister tickled my son I knew this would trigger something and was about to say stop and it was too late the dog had jumped up and bit my son. I felt so sad and angry with my self for being talked into this . Since then they have not apologised or seen if my DS is ok nothing at all. I really dont have the time of day for them at all. we have baby stuff at thier house as ours is small and its needs collecting Im not going even on my own I will just want to punch people as they have done nothing with the dog and they have a grandchild on the way I will get to wound up I have bit my tounge with this family for a while now and my DP went around a few weeks ago to talk to them about other issues they have done fuck all . DP wants us all to get on I dont want to they had their chance and now I have had enough. I have moved away from my family to be here and near his family who dont give a shit. I think I might move back home the end of this year as I own a house where I used to live and am currently renting it out. My DP works for a family buisness and is why I moved here. I think screw them all if this carries on what would you do? Oh Im not a dog hater I have a loopy lurcher she is 9 and is a star.

ffs - your son was bitten by their dog and they haven't done anything about it

I don't know whether you need to report the bite to the police? Did your son need treatment after the bite?

Don't go round whilst the dog is still there - don't know what the long term answer is though? Would your dh be able to get work in your old town if you moved back their?

More helpful posters will be along shortly I'm sure - I'm just outraged that your pil clearly have no concerns about their dog

You posted about this before didn't you?

They are horrid, have nothing to do with them and don't allow your children to go over there while there is a dangerous dog in the house. I would move home in your shoes. Your DP is not putting his family first.

Thanks you guys sorry there have been other isssues going on to take over this but its been underlying now for ages. Sorry if I did not make my self clear it sounded a bit crap. My DS and the baby will never go there. My issue is more with the baby stuff being there (that I had 2nd hand off my cousin) and DP's mother and step dad will wonder why I have not gone with him. (As my DS goes to his dads every other weekend and we would visit DP's mother those weekends when I did not have DS). I think it should be pritty clear why not but hey ho. I dont want to go around there I will want to punch them. I really do mean it as well. I have never been so angry . Just wondered if it was my hormones or something needed someone who was not involved. Im having the baby down here as we have anohter 6 months rent until sept. I will see if his mother bothers to travel all of 15 - 20 mins to see her grandchild and my DS. If not its good grounds for me to move back home. My mum lives 1 1/2 hours away by train as been getting divorced has no money hardley and misses he GS loads. She has been to visit about 4 times now but DP's mother has not been once lives 15 -20 mins away and does not have to work as they live in a house thats worth 1/2 million. They have brought us nappies some bottles and that is it. My mum came at the weekend and spent loads even though she has nothing. I told her thanks and she did not have to but she said she loves me and her GS and the one on the way. I just dont get it. Does anyone else get it? I have explained this to DP and I think he wants to be loved by his mother and respect from that family its not going to happen I have tried to point this out. They have not bothered why do you? I will tolerate it until sept and see what happens but then Im off home where I know the GC will be loved by my mum and my family. As for the fucking dog I want to report it I really do. Im not sure how to do it or if I should....

Sorry son was bit and it was more like 2 deep scratches under his arm. I was worried as well as he was upset that the dog would do that I have had my dog for 9 yrs now and she was with DS from a baby my DS was shocked and he asked me "why did the cute doggies would bite me"? I just wanted to cry then it was the hurt in his face as if they did not like him and it was his fault. When we came home after he was bit he seemed a bit worried about our dog who hes never been bothered about before. She was pleased to see him and think she helped him to see not all dogs want to bite him. Just did not want you to think he had a gaping wound that I just left and did not bother with. It was treated at home and kept a close eye on.

I would just say you are tired and want to rest as pregnant when it comes to visiting his family send dp for the baby stuff. Plan to end your rental agreements and move back to where you will be happy, you don't want pnd? You aren't sending the kids around there again so I would not mention the dog unless they ask why you and baby don't go around?

If she goes on about you being ott re the dog, phone the rspca about the dog being out of control, can you have it put down for biting?

If they can't control their dog and it is biting children, then they are under obligation to protect your dc and make sure the dog is kept out of the way when you visit, IMO. If they are not willing to keep the dog out of the way then I'd be very concerned about your baby when it's born and would refuse to go to their house.

By rights, if the dog is starting to attack children, then it could possibly need to be put to sleep before it does real harm, but I personally would be satisfied if they put the dog in another room or in a dog cage during my visit. I don't personally like the idea of putting dogs down, especially when it's a problem with the owner controlling them and some decent training would put it right.

Yep I agree Im more angry at the lack of training or should I say no training I dont want the dog put down to be honest but it gets out sometimes but dont think there are any kids near by? I dont want the kids around there as DP's sister will let the dog out as I had put it away before out of the way and DP's sister said whos been mean and put you in here?! So would not be happy with any of the children going around there. I will just stay away and make a pregnant excuse for not going my self. After baby is born they know where we live. They know Im not bringing the children over again as I said that christmas day for everyone to hear my DP agreed and told them to sort it out. No kids are coming whist the dog is there. I think I will try to move back to where I come from later this year I find it all weird. I have had PND before and do worry about that too. As I have no one around here. The last time my mum was 5 mins away. Thanks again for answering my rant!!