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Anyone else feel inadequate next to their own mum

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picklebum2011 · 17/01/2011 08:41

Hi just want to get it all off my chest really. I love my mum so much and we've always been close but since having my dd (6 months now) we've been crossing wires a lot. My mum's always wanted to be a nannie and has gone on about it constantly for the last five years. Before having my dd i had two losses which makes her that much more special. My problem is that my mum makes me feels so inadequate when she's around she's all singing and dancing an gets my dd really grinning and then will be oh look at her smiling at her nannie who she loves so much. I know this may sound stupid but it feels like my dd prefers her! I know i'm the one with her 24 7 so she probably gets bored of looking at my face all the time so someone new a couple of times a week is a novelty but it still makes me feel useless. I hate the fact that when i go visiting round either mums or mil's i don't get to hold my dd i feel like she's passed around to everyone like a doll. I know i'm really lucky to have a bif family who all love her too and i know it's important that she build other relationships too but i guess i just feel jealous that she will prefer other people to me. God i sound pathetic thanks for listening.

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McDreamy · 17/01/2011 08:47

You don't sound pathetic at all but you do need to find a way to stand up to your mum - and when you find that way let me know!!!!!

I went round to my parents house yesterday, my DB and his wife have just had a baby (1 week old) and not surprisingly are having unpredictable broekn nights.

My mum started spouting off about how she used to rock my newborn DD1 to sleep (8 years ago) and would only come and get me when she needed feeding, she was up most of the night with her but at least I was able to sleep - utter crap Shock! She came to visit for the first week and was a tremendous help during the day but not at night, I was on my own!!!

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