To tell or not but how?

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Friend just had a baby boy late last week. I also found out he is cheating on her again. They have only been married since last March - the big fairy tale wedding. He was cheating then and promised he'd stop. She has no idea of how long it has been going on. He admitted he married her because he wanted the 'grown up experience' -peer family acceptance. But at heart he is single, career orientated and self obsessed.

The thing is everyone now knows except her and the longer it goes on the more hurt she will be.

I don't want to be the one to shatter her illusion that everything is a lie. He is even struggling to hold a job. Was considered 'a diva' at his last place and has only been in his latest employment for less than 2 months.

He's in debt and loves to drink and go out with the boys.

This should be a happy occasion but he is just milking it to get attention and when he gets bored or if she keeps a bit of weight on he is out of there!

What to do?

Does he know you know?

Maybe let him know, that you know. He may shit himself....? Therefore avoiding your poor friends discovery.

Sounds a complete knob and don't hink he is worthy of her, but all you can do is maker him feel extremely uncomfortable that you know stuff about him and he won't know whether you will blab or not.

when your friend finds out (if everyone knows, this is just a matter of time!) and if she know you knew, then she'll feel betrayed by you too.

I don't envy you! because the hurt you will pass on by telling her is almost unbareable too.

I think you must let her know but I don't know the best way to do this.

Sorry...crappy advice really!

Why don't you let him know that you know and tell him that if he doesn't tell her you will have to

That might work?