Dating ladies, how often do you call him/does he call you?

[madonnawhore]

Silly question I know, but if you already have plans to see each other, do you bother calling each other in between dates for no reason, just to chat?

I'm not the kind of person who calls people without there being a reason for the phone call, I don't tend to ring people just to talk about general nothingness. But if the time between your last date and the next date is more than a couple of days, would you/do you have general chit chat on the phone?

Does it matter if you don't speak that much in between dates? I mean, you already know you're going to see each other so you want to save all your chat for when you're together, right?

Would be interested to hear about how often you have "pointless" contact with the guys you're dating.

It's not pointless contact! You are getting to know someone and apart from meeting him, talking to him on the phone should be one of the best parts of the day!

Depends how long you've been seeing each other, and how long between dates. If you have to save up your chat, you probably don't have that much to chat about in the first place!

Argh! Don't shout at me :)

Guess I need to rethink my telephone manner...

... also depends if he calls you. Never call / text more frequently than the other person or you look desperate.

well with DP, he called every day for at least 1.5 hours inbetween dates (he was away at the time so not sure it really counts) but he has always texted me first thing in the morning first with a 'morning princess' text - some find it a bit ott but I don't. we also texted during the day as well. how else do you get to know someone unless you talk to them?

"pointless contact"?

Sorry, can't get head around that at all.

If you don't enjoy talking and risk running out of conversation when dating aren't they just an escort/fuck buddy? - and even a fuck buddy is worth calling for a bit of tension build up aren't they?

lol.

Went out on my first date with him last night and we've been texting each other all day. 10 minutes after he dropped me off we had arranged to see each other tomorrow lunch time.

Whit-woooo molemesses - sounds like the date went well!

I didn't mean pointless in a bad way, i meant it as shorthand for 'no reason other than just to speak to them'.

It's all good, people. No one is anyone's fuck buddy, no one's running out of chat, just gauging the line between cool and too cool for school.

Thank you for your perspectives though.

well with the others i've dated prior to DP I've alwasy rung/texted etc not always first but 50/50 ish, with DP however, I purposefully made him do all the running, the calling arranging everything etc - live by the idea (but not too conceited) that you're fab, and he'll have ti fit into your life. Anyhow, we're now expecting our first DC for it has seemed to work. :) get him chasing you.

I'm trying to put off doing anything risque for 3 months, but hell, it's going to be a very long and very hard 3 months.

You have to keep talking, to get to know eachother, and for flirting.

Flirting is fun.

I have been dating someone for six weeks, he texts me every morning, we text back and forth a little in the day ( just what we are up to, bit of smut, arrangements if we are meeting up) and he usually calls me in the evening also or I might call him.

I'd say we prob send at least five texts and one call each day even if we are seeing each other that day. Sometimes there are many more texts, if I'm seeing him that day there's an extra degree of flirting/anticipation.

Would you expect that to level out a bit after a few months though? Once you'd got into a bit more of a routine of seeing each other and had moved into a more 'established' phase?

My ex was a full on texter, call me 3 or 4 times a day, kind of guy and he was a complete wanker, so I suppose I see keenness to be in touch constantly as a bit of a red flag.

If it does level out it's just another reason to enjoy it while you can.

Nogoodatthis

If your comment was aimed at me then answer would be yes, probably.

ExDH was supremely disinterested, didn't ever call/text me, ignored me at home and never talked about his/my day unless he had a complaint so it's refreshing. Plus we have known each other a very short space of time so are getting to know each other.

I would expect to chat (or at very least text) daily to a boyfriend as you choose to spend time with them because you are interested/care and think of them regularly. The constant texting I would imagine calms down but since I am in the sexual infatuation stage I am bloody enjoying it!

longweight, enjoy! :)