am fed up of my husband working away it is driving me mad

[LadyFioOfTipton]

and so forth and so on

pmt beckons and i hate the world

my poor children

Is he away again Fio?

God I wish you lived near me. My friend with the autistic dd (and NT ds) has a dh who does about 6 weeks on 6 weeks off. You'd like her as well. I'm about to ring her and offload.

MOVE DOWN HERE!!!

They dish out direct payments down here as well- you'd definitely get them- that would make things easier.

he has been away the last six weeks out of eight if that makes sense

last week he was back and now he has been away last night and just rang and said, i will be away tonight is that ok? and i said yes. want to get pissed now and forget it all

oh god- that's awful

i just said to him, it may be fine to you now but ds is being a right arsehole (sorry for that word but no other word to describe) just because he is away and it will only get worse

dd comes back from school and said to me "look at me' and I just feel sad for them, i didnt want this as a 'family' tb, with just me here. i think i have pmt i should most probably shut up

Did your dd say "look at me'? That's bloody brilliant Fio!

Mine keeps going away for long periods. Initially I love it. The house is calm and tidy, the kids well-behaved.
Then I get bored and lonely (especially in the evenings) and miss him. The kids miss him and take it out on me.
You have my sympathy.

Its horrendous I know - DP just got back from 5 week trip. You feel like a s**t mum and weekends are the worse as everyone is doing family things.

No idea how single mums cope, think I would have sent them off to orphanage by now.

So my heart goes out to you. Have a glass of wine and some chocolate, watch a weepy movie, have a bath and sleep tight.

yeah jimjams, i got her off the bus and she said 'look at me" beaming and then swiped her hair showed me her 'new' jeans (ie. a school pair) andf then went ij the house!

spidermama, that is one of the worst bits, is that ds takes it out on me.

I have to workk weekends kaz so he comes back to watch the kids wjilst i work and usually rushes back out away about an hour after I am back. I dont know how single mums cope either but sometimes I think it would be nice not to have a husband to think about, but I love him so i should just shut up.

have clamed a bit with the red wine

Bloody hell Fio- that is brilliant!

Oh mines away for ages....we've just had a long talk on the phone about it.
He's fed up and so am I.Money is good,foreign travel blah blah blah,but actually I never want to visit another country again (says she packing to leave next week). I like it here and i want to do normal things like going to the gym,being properly part of village life,working on my garden and so on.
I also want my children to go to the local school,not be dragged around the place every 18 months.

Never in my wildest dreams thought I'd be feeling like this when we first went to Russia seven years ago.......

Sweetie, why is he away so much?

My partner is away again. Nothing like the extent of yours (or Kaz's) but it's been a substantial chunk of the past month and I'm bloody fed up with it.

I feel a bit like spidermama - at first, the house feels lovely and tidy and clean (well, cleaner than normal) and the bathroom doesn't have clothes thrown all over it...then it starts getting a bit tedious and boring being on your own in the evening and dealing with the kids all day.

I think it's different to single mums because you know you are single and therefore, set up a support network whereas we know we have dhs so don't bother.

I do think that kids often play up when one half goes away - dh had a man to man chat with ds before he went (ds will take it out on me) about how he was my special helper and apart from one truly awful day last week, he's been better than normal.

Have more red wine, some chocolate and vow to have a better day tomorrow. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate!

So true fis about being in limbo!
If i was single it would be a wole different situation!!

Ditto the children playing up. I just feel very very tired all of the time.

If it is any consolation when DP went away for most of last week the kids were fine...but the cats weren't, and the furry sodding expletives pssed and sht all over the house. Which was marginally worse, actually.

God, there are lots of us work widows aren't there! I don't appear to be have it as bad,- dh is away every week for 2 nights a week, and has been for the last 5 years. I loved it when had no children tbh, but now have dd who is a real daddy's girl, and I feel second best all the time. Dh wants to have another child, but I honestly don't know how I would cope with 2 with him being away like it is now. I am not great at asking for help either; partly a pride thing, and partly, I wouldn't want to get used to the help and for it to then go iyswim. Hey ho.

fio love the new name

My dh doesnt work away but he works 5 nights a week, so as soon as he comes home,he is straight off to bed. He gets up usually after tea time and by time he spends time with kids etc, I only get about half an hour a day with him. It is hard but loved the post from foxinsox bout the tidy house LOL

it's shameful really and I'm not even that houseproud. Dh went away on Sunday and in the last hour he was here, I hoovered the house and cleaned the floors (the knowledge of no dirty football boots traipsing round the house for a whole week was just too appealing). He said I actually looked pleased to see him go when I waved from the window! What a bad wife I am!

lol DP is away this week and next. first plans were nice fresh sheets on the bed (-:

ROFL foxinsox

OMG Kathlean, that's one of the first things I do when DH is away, (which is nearly every week now )!!

Can I join in, too? My dh went away last week and won't be back until Nov. Then he'll be away again mid-Nov and not home until New Year, thus missing Xmas.

I've been okay on my own but get peed off on Weds because it's bin day tomorrow and I hate collecting all the rubbish up. Plus things have got a bit out of hand today and I've two lots of washing to sort/fold/iron, post to attend to, dd is only just in the bath and I haven't yet cleared up from tea. Where's that wine???

sorry you are having a tough time fio

BUT your dd said look at me!! FAB