Xp's ex-wife and domestic violence

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If there is nothing to corroborate what is said about his violence, this is difficult, especially as contact has been going on since you separated.

But if you think your children may be at risk, you have to protect them and have contact supervised or stopped until he can reassure you that he won't hurt them emotionally or physically.

If the solicitor is not much cop, can you get some initial advice from a CAB or similar? They are usually quite good and possibly more sympathetic than a harrassed solicitor on legal aid rates.

is there a contac torder or did you just agree it?

if no contact order then you are not breching anythig by witholding contact or saying to him that you have some concernes and you want contact to eb sueprvised daytime for now eg at public places like soft play or library.

if you would be breaching a contact order then is different and you need to see a solciitor...

make a note of date of this new information you have been given - this is valid reason to change what ahs been going on.

tho of course is hearsay and exW's word - unless she reported/has evidence?

but given you ahve direct expereince of his violence you cant give him benefit of doubt for your child's sake.

you could also call SS for advice and state your concerns pointing out that you have stopped contact to protect your child.

let him then pursue contact thru courts so that you can get the concerns out and ask foronly supervised contact til he gives reports on drug tests etc

Hello again

XP does not see his other DC - his choice.
No contact order or any other order. Have asked exw if she will write down what she said to me and if she ever involved police. Have asked solicitor for advice but no reply yet. DC contact this weekend is now my worry - I really want to withdraw it. Do social services keep records of informal convs? I have applied to look at my medical records to see what has been put about the various incidents.

Thanks for all your support again.

I would recommend you call the NSPCC helpline. I have found them very helpful. You can do it anonymously or they can make referrals on your behalf.

Good luck, what a horrible situation.