DH was in a profession he had grown to hate for many years. Two years ago he was made redundant and we agreed that I would increase my working hours in order to financially support the family and he would look at other alternatives as he really didn't want another job doing what he had been doing. He would also take on more childcare. Since then he's looked at one option, which has proved not to be possible (for good reasons). Since then he's made no effort to consider paid or unpaid work, and says he has no ideas of what he'd like to do. He certainly doesn't relish the SAHD role and does the bare minimum. Our youngest DC is now PT at nursery but will start school soon.
He's not by nature lazy, and I don't think he's depressed (he's actually probably happier than when he was working). However, I do think he lacks confidence about getting another job, and has a real problem stepping out of his (very narrow) comfort zone. However, I really am not sure how sustainable this is. My job is not particularly secure which worries me - I'm worried the longer he is out of the job market (either paid or unpaid) the more difficult it will be to find anything and the whole onus on earning is now mine. However more to the point I just don't see it as healthy. He doesn't do anything in the community or have friends he meets up with (as many SAHM would) and another 20 years of this just seems soul destroying (for him and me). Any suggestions for potential areas of training / work or voluntary activities are met with a negative response.
I've tried talking to him and he really doesn't want to talk about it. Any suggestions of how to approach him?