Sodding FaceBook!

[tinternetqueen]

right, I'll keep this as vague as I can :o
I've found out through FB that someone's been lying to me. Problem is that this info wasn't on a friend's page, so when I confront the liar, they will know that I've been snooping around and, because they won't like being caught, they will try and turn the situation around by focussing on me being the baddy for looking at pages that are none of my business. I can just imagine the whole 'what were you doing looking at so-and-so's page anyway' bla bla bla now, which will distract from the actual matter.
So how can I make sure that this confrontation won't just revolve about me being at fault for looking at stuff on FB, but to keep it focussed on the fact that they've lied? I just need something to keep up my sleeve, I know this is going to be a very heated confrontation and I want to be in control of the situation as much as possible!
I won't be a complete tease, so I'll tell you that it's photographic evidence of someone being somewhere at a certain time and place, when they have told me they weren't.

You could always say "I have promised someone I won't say how I found out (us!)", "but I know that you were at X when you were meant to be at Y".

Is it a partner, friend or family member?

there's really no other way I could have found out apart from FB, no one could have told me. Argghh, it's too complicated to explain without going into a long long long story! Sorry for that.

The thing is, I am sure there are women on here that have found out stuff on FB (or by checking emails, phones etc) that they weren't supposed to, and I am guessing that they have had to battle with the whole why were you checking up on me thing.

Maybe I will be subtle about it instead of doing a big you've been lying to me, just pick a good time and casually say, remember what you told me about that night, and take it from there.

How about, "yes I checked up on you because I don't trust you, and with good reason, it seems".

Is there no other friend of a friend link? No one who could have linked you to the photo and said "doesn't that look like X" on the photo? Because that would be one way around the snooping accusation.

print off what you found, incase they delete it after and make a fool of you.

Everyone snoops on other peoples profiles on fb, I think that's just human nature, just say it popped up in your newsfeed and plead ignorance if they say it couldn't have done?

I would just say I was snoooping about FB (because c'mon everyone does!lol) and saw the pic.

Ah just seen Wannabes post. Yes News feed sounds good and with the new FB change there's all sorts of crap showing up.

I come at this from the perspective that if someone has given me grounds to distrust them, I have no ideological difficulty with verifying that gut instinct, or admitting that I checked. I have never understood why anybody would make a relationship decision without having all the information to hand. Just say what your grounds were, admit that you checked and confront. You don't have to lie about doing something that was reasonable.

I don't really understand facebook but as far as I'm concerned, if the information is readily available then you were 'browsing' not 'snooping'. If you had to hack someone's password, then you'll have to go with Mommymayhem's response which is perfectly valid.