Anyone else married with a crap sex life?

[lonelypal]

And I feel it's all my fault as I'm 2 stone overwight and hate my body. Dh hasn't made a pass at me in God knows how long, I can't even remember the last time actually, if anything happens it's always me who started it with the lights out in bed. I feel so completely unattractive and unwanted, but when I see myself naked in a mirror I think yuck no wonder he doesn't fancy me. I know he doesn't. I don't want to buy fancy underwear and a night out together is impossible(no-one to babysit ever). I just want to feel semi semi attractive and have dh notice me as his wife instead of as his pal.

sorry can't talk about this to anyone.

2 stone overweight, fgs woman stop worrying

your self esteem is the issue by the sounds of it, not your weight. has your dh ever said he doesnt fancy you? or commented on your weight?

he daren't he knows how I feel about it. But surely his complete lack of interest in me speaks volumes?

Ask him. It could be something really simple. Perhaps he is stressed at work or something. There could be a very simple reason. It'll just get worse if you don't talk about it.

And i have self esteem 'issues' and dp knows this, so tells me how beautiful i am all the time, and that i'm not fat (which by the way, i know i am, but bless him for saying it!). Maybe if you tell if you're feeling down about yourself he'll make the effort a bit more??

Worth a try