DH and I have been married 26 years. In the past we had quite an active social life, mainly involving half a dozen or so of his old friends, who originated close to where we live now, and 8-10 of my old school and uni friends who I keep in touch with. When we moved to our present address 11 years ago the houses here were new and we saw a lot of our neighbours too.
DH doesn't bother so much with his friends now, Christmas cards etc. is about it. I see my friends en masse a couple of times a year and meet up with them individually for trips to London or lunches out but it is - with the exception of one summer lunch party a year - all girly gatherings.
The neighbours have given up socialising and we don't see much of any of them now really.
I have made a real effort in the past and invited people round for meals, tried to orgnanise things but they come to us or go out with us once then it all dies down again and we don't get invited back for meals etc.
We had DH's walking group friends round on Saturday as they were starting out on a walk from our house and it was so lovely to go to the pub with them and then give them supper I felt sad that this doesn't happen very often. Why is it so difficult for us to maintain our friendships these days? Is it normal?