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MummieHunnie · 11/01/2011 13:22

I have been avoiding some things, and they are becoming critical so have to be deal with. I used to deal with things like this head on, it got too painfull so I avoided.

Going through the things has triggered me regarding exh, it all ended so quickly and became so very nasty.

I was sitting there doing stuff that I don't want to do and I felt overwhelmed and just wanted to leave it to someone else and bugger off really. When I thought that I thought that really that was what I think happened to exh, he got to a point where things overwhelemed him and he could not cope so went off and had fun and started a new life, leaving the mess to me.

I have also been thinking about him and the kids, and thinking how rubbish he was and the choices he made and thinking about the children and their pain etc.

I don't normally think this sort of thing this intensley, I try to avoid thinking about it.

I don't even know what this post is about really, I feel confused.

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MummieHunnie · 11/01/2011 13:57

I want to talk to him about the children and I want to talk to him to put the horrible past to rest. I don't think it is a good idea, and I don't think he would speak to me anyways, he hates me.

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cestlavielife · 11/01/2011 15:53

dont talk to him!

talk to a counsellor or therapist.

you need ot make this about you and your life and your future - not him...

MummieHunnie · 11/01/2011 16:10

I knew it was a bad idea to try and speak to him. I was going through some stuff and it triggered a lot of memories, thoughts and feelings, it has confused and upset me. I am feeling a bit fragile as there is so much going on at the moment. I have had a hell of a lot of bad luck not all of my making for a very long time.

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