Now what do I do?

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Basically after surviving hellish year, DH and I seemed to be making progress in our relationship.
Then about a week before xmas I noticed he was not wearing his wedding ring. Asked him about it and he claimed he had taken it off to clean hands and could not remember where he had put it. I thought this was ,well, strange, but asked him to find it asap please. He knows how important a symbol this is to me and he has NEVER removed his before.
I even offered to buy him a new one for xmas but he just laughed and said he'd already got one.
Anyway, roll forward to the other night. I was getting more and more pissed about this lack of ring so went to bed and asked him if he had found it. He said no, why? I replied that until he did there would be no sex and tried to make a joke about it. He just went to sleep.
Thought he would come down next morning wearing it...he didn't.
Decided that he would def be wearing it in bed last night as he never turns down sex.
He wasn't.
Okay, I gave him an ultimatum, he ignored it. Now what do I do?
This is weird because he hates mind games but I have given him plenty of chances with this.

Sounds like he is trying to tell you something by not telling you anything iyswim?

The stonewalling is crap though - I know it well.

Only you know how bad you yourself are feeling about this but if it were me I would tell him to take a day off work (should not be too hard if he is self-employed) and dedicate it to talking with you. If you have DCs old enough to hear, get a babysitter or wait until they are in bed. Tell him that if he wants to remain married then he must talk to you properly.

If he doesn't respond I would tell him you want to separate for a while at least until he is ready to talk.

Might give him the jolt he needs. If not you probably have your answer, affair or no affair.

Sorry you are going through this x