i was so embarassed last night - sex related, possTMI :(

[superv1xen]

has been time of the month for the last week so havent been able to have sex and yesterday all day all me and dp could think about was getting the kids to bed so we could, erm, make up for lost time

anyway last night we were in bed and started kissing etc and things progressed, as they do, when suddenly i dried up and it soon became clear that we were not going to be able to rescue the situation, the more he tried the less turned on i became and in the end we had to give up, then DD woke up (she has a cold atm) so it just didn't happen. and he felt really bad, like he had failed.

we really fancy eachother and usually have really great sex so i just don't know why this happened :(

again, sorry for TMI but if anyone can offer any advice it would be much appreciated!

i have no idea why it happened, maybe period related? but in future keep some lube handy. was anything on your mind?

don*t worry too much, just try again another night.
I usually am a bit dry down below after my period, lubricants help.

I find after children that I can be super turned on but quite dry, keep some lube by the bed otr sorry if tmi) have him go down on you to wetten things!

Lube is always a good idea. As women age, this is more likely to be a problem (stress also doesn't help - ditto dehydration).

And yy the amount of moisture depends on the time of the month.

I always need lube straight after a period - it's purely hormonal and nothing to do with not being turned on.

Saliva isn't a good subsitute, it soon disappears and then you can get sore, so can he.

Lube makes sex better full stop - no matter how well lubricated you are naturally.

I think I'll change my name to lubey-loo. smile]

as women age, this is more likely to be a problem

omg i am only just 31 :(

but glad it isnt just me! and lol @ malificence aka lubey-loo :o

Sorry, I didn't know how old you were! It's unlikely to be your age at 31 - more likely to be stress. There's nothing as un-erotic as thinking 'why am I not wet?'!

Didn't you get married recently Superv1xen? How did it go, did you sort out a lovely dress? (though I'm sure you'd look fantastic in anything you put on)

i am about to get married marnie

3 weeks saturday eek

and yeah i found a dress in the end, thank u for asking :) i wont bore you with the details but its very nice and exactly what i was looking for :)

and nqc it could be stress, dd isn't sleeping atm ( therefore neither am i) and is poorly with a bad cold and cough so maybe thats it.

I get the same thing just after my period. No matter how up for it I am, I'm always a bit dry for a couple of days afterwards. I'm only 30 so I think it's def a hormonal thing and not an age thing.

Get some of that tingly lube, it's great!

I'm assuming you are meaning you became too dry for penetrative sex (correct me if I'm wrong). So as others suggest Lube, (the Lloyds own bran one is rubbish BTW) or do something other than penetration. I get dry during and just after period as well

Lube! I couldn't have a sex life without lube since having DS, lots of my friends are the same. Don't need it all the time but it's handy and also very nice

for those that have recommended needing lube after DC....do you still need lube if you have never had a vaginal birth? my dc were both born by planned section so no change to my downstairs IYSWIM .

It's about your hormones rather than what, er, actually happened to the area, so I'd guess you might well do.

Very important to reassure poor DH that nobody has "failed", it's just one of those little tricks that Nature plays and is fortunately easily sorted.

both mine were c-sections but its hormonal changes I believe... I have certainly needed lube since - and in all fairness... its ACE!

ah ok :)

perhaps will try again tonight if not too tired :o

Ach, I'm 30 and have been comically dry since the birth of DC3.

I'm still up for it though.