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I'm a weirdo

18 replies

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 10/01/2011 01:11

ok, bear(bare?) with me because i am not quite sure what it is I'm trying to say.

have recently started chatting with my best friend's BIL on fb, i only accepted him because of the connection with BF, he is not my type at all going on what BF has told me about him and the first time i met him (at BF's wedding, he was veeerrry drunk). so anyway started chatting and we met for a playdate with our dcs in softplay, got on ok, nothing noteworthy, a few awkward silences as we don't really know each other. then through more chatting on FB it became clear he was interested in us dating. we get on very well on our chats but i really wasn't interested in dating him so i told him this and he accepted that, we have carried on chatting on fb, but now, i am starting to really like him!! why?? he is not my type at all and i have told him i am not interested, and i wasn't but now i keep on hoping he's been in touch and wanting to see him again. but i don't want a relationship with him. i don't have any male friends taht i can talk to the way i have been talking with him, is it this am i just confusing friendship and enjoying talking to someone with being attracted to them?

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OnEdge · 10/01/2011 01:15

You fancy him

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 10/01/2011 01:18

i know but why when i didn't before? surely fancying someone is instant?

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ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 10/01/2011 01:21

what i mean is, i always know straight away if i fancy someone. i have been chatting with this guy for over a month now but it' sonly the last couple of days I've felt like this. i have 'known' of him for about 3 years and never fancied him.

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MadAboutQuavers · 10/01/2011 01:21

Ask him to go for lunch or a coffee

See how you feel in his presence

Give it a chance! Some wonderful relationships have started from nothing at all

MadAboutQuavers · 10/01/2011 01:23

And stop over-analysing, it'll kill your libido

Grin
Popcat3 · 10/01/2011 01:25

I think its because u have told him no to a relationship, that it's made u think what if? u need to ask urself would it hurt to be friends before lovers?

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 10/01/2011 01:27

i think you are right popcat. i think me telling him no to a romantic relationship is allowing me to know him as a friend with none of the scariness and pressure of a relationship.

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ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 10/01/2011 01:29

maybe i did fancy him but didn't want to risk the relationship thing so made it a no-goer?

mad you are right, i am over analysing!!

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Popcat3 · 10/01/2011 01:45

By telling him no to a relationship, it has opened up a can of worms, coz now u have cut that road off ur wanting to know whats down it!!! Classic female behaviour! were to nosey for our own good lol :)

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 10/01/2011 01:48

well i haven't cut him off as a friend so at least i can get to know him better and then if i decide i want to date him i can see how he feels.

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Popcat3 · 10/01/2011 18:39

Decisions descisions! lol wish u all the best, whatever u decide

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 10/01/2011 20:58

we're going for coffee!!!

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BluTac · 10/01/2011 21:03

If you love it when he calls you boo, you'll know Grin

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 10/01/2011 21:15
Grin
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Popcat3 · 14/01/2011 22:13

keep us posted!

smellycatsmellycat · 14/01/2011 22:36

He's made you feel good as well which is always nice :-) make sure it's not just the flattery you like lol

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 14/01/2011 22:38

well, we met today for coffee and it definitely isn't physical. he also seems to change when talking face to face. i think friends is as far as this will go.

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Popcat3 · 14/01/2011 22:53

Oh well! Maybe he has a friend rofl Wink

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