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How do you seperate?

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TitsalinaBumSquash · 09/01/2011 16:52

DP and I have decided to seperate, but it seems impossible, on his wages he wont be able to afford to live! He earns £1100 a month roughly, taking into account rent, council tax, gas/leccy, food ect it doesn't seem possible. How do people do it?

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WherecanIhide · 09/01/2011 17:07

My husband just buggered off into a flat because he was able to afford it. I imagine many people go and live with their parents or other family members.

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TitsalinaBumSquash · 09/01/2011 17:25

Im sorry to hear that. Unfortunatley there are no family members or parents to go to in our case.

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littlecritter · 09/01/2011 17:31

My xp takes home @£1750 per month and he too will struggle but he has credit card debt and a liking for alcohol. Perhaps we could set up a website where newly single men can meet similar for a flat share Grin? My xp is currently staying with his parents.

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TitsalinaBumSquash · 09/01/2011 17:33

Lol no debts luckily just him and his wages. I think he might have to go down the flat/house share route. Its a shame he is a good bloke just didn't work out.

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mamavents · 09/01/2011 17:40

no, he won't be able to manage really - my rent is 550 quid a month on a small 3 bedder in the North - add in council tax at 125 a month etc it really starts stacking up to run a new household. Mu husband lives on his mothers settee! sigh

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TitsalinaBumSquash · 09/01/2011 17:44

Well that is a real problem. Looks like were stuck together! ho hum...

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merrywidow · 09/01/2011 18:09

Unless you have DCs and he needs to provide you with support, isn't his housing arrangements HIS problem?

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TitsalinaBumSquash · 09/01/2011 18:15

Well yes I could stand back and say its HIS problem but were seperating becuase we have grown apart and want different things not because we don't love each other. We have 2 young children have agreed to make this as easy as possible for each other.

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Malificence · 09/01/2011 18:26

Plenty of families live on that amount of money, let alone one person.

My sister lives on £100 a week after her rent and Council tax.

elephantsaregreen · 09/01/2011 18:33

I'll be watching this thread with interest. Also considering splitting and have two DCs and just can't see how it could work financially...

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TitsalinaBumSquash · 09/01/2011 18:38

Malificence Do you mind me asking if your sister is in private rent or housing association or if she owns. He isnt eligable for HA and cant afford to buy so it will have to be PR wich is very expensive where we live!

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mamavents · 10/01/2011 01:36

sorry, I wasn't clear, yes, that amount is totally enough fora small family to live on. I too have that amount per week Malificence, after utilites, rent etc for me and 3 DC's which then covers food and incidentals.

I was assuming, maybe wrongly, that the Titsalina's husbands income might be the entire family income, imn which case, I don't think you can run two 'households' off it

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TitsalinaBumSquash · 10/01/2011 05:21

No DP's wages are just to support him but where we live yout looking at £650 a month for a studio flat, then with council tax, gas, electric, tv liscence, water, food, phone it would be enough for him to live on.

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