Split up with dh at end of September after 17 yes married. Have got two dc's, 14 and 11. They have have been very upset, older one took an overdose and is currently under a therapist. She doesn't stay with dh. The other one is heartbroken his dad isn't living with us and feels upset when he goes to stay with him but loves him very much.
Went to talk to dh yesterday to explain how ds ds feels as he has difficulty talking to his dad about his feelings. Dh thinks I'm making ds worse !! Dh hasn't really taken responsibility for all the hurt he has caused, just says he stopped loving me and decided to leave. He's got a really nice flat, goes out with his 'friends' from work and sees ds a couple of times a week. He's says he's happy with his life now and eventually admitted yesterday that he isn't coming back. But he's left utter devastation behind, how can he live with himself?
So far this week I have spoken to social services (called after dd was in hospital on new years eve after drinking too much and taking about suicide again), the local mental health people about dd and ds teacher because he is struggling with school. After everyone of these calls I have cried, how did it get to this? None of this was my choice, I still loved dh very much and had no idea he was unhappy until it was too late. He never gave me a chance. Thought we would be together forever. Instead he has chosen the life of a single man, says there is nomone else.