how can i make it better

[bliss88]

hello i need some advice...

My partener and i have broken up after 3years we ave a dc aged 1 and a half. It has only been a week and i know in time things will get easier but i cant stop crying and feeling really anxious im twenty two so most of my friends are away at uni or in work full time.

I really dont feel lie making new friends as they dont no me well enough. to be honest i would just like to stay in bed but i know i cant as i need to be strong for my son. i miss my dp sooo much and want to have hi back butwe i mention this to him he says we are having a break and doesnt really seem interested in working on it i guess he needs time to think what he realyl wnts s hes really struggled with te whole dad and family thing he has been fantastic but mot of the time we are really not working i love him and deep down i know he loves me too.

i just cant stop crying and feeling depressed i need some advice as being a single parent relly scares me. x

Take a look at this thread? And the Recently Ditched threads/ dumpling thread currently on Relationships.

Seems like the exP is the one calling the shots here. Sounds like you have been dumped tbh. Has he hurt you or is there someone else? He sounds pretty immature to walk out on a little child and not to give an indication of what he wants/ leave you in limbo. Has he given any hope at all of ever getting back together or is he just all silent and grumpy and giving you the impression you're really annoying him?

If you love someone deep down and you have a child with them, then you don't walk out on that person and that child and give no indication of what's going on.

i guess so maybe you re right now ths hurts even more owing tht he may not even lve me will read the thread thank you so much xxx

Wishing you well and I hope you have family or some good friends you can reach out to.

I think if you take one day at a time, or even one morning, then one afternoon, instead of thinking of massive projects like making new friends, and go with your DC's schedule as much as possible, finding little things for you and the DC to do together and get out as much as possible, it's easier to check off the days. You'll start to feel more competent as a mum and better about yourself going it alone if you can do one thing a day with the DC like going to the park, out for groceries, looking at trains, etc.

Little DCs can be nice company even though they're demanding, and they love just being with their mum and doing things with her, 'helping'. They're quick with little smiles and the odd hug. And they take up a lot of energy. They're a great distraction.