Friend who put's you down?

[Mallarky]

In our group of girl friends their is a lovely bubbly happy jovial type all ways a laugh and witty. But she has the knack of putting people down in a funny way. We have all at sometime felt the results of her humor and i am beginning to wonder if i really want to spend time with her. This is a shame as apart from this she is a has some good friendship qualities. Have you have friend's who have done this and what did you decide to do?

yep, not funny. def not funny. slightly less sympathy than I had before but, go on, speak to her anyway. you don;t have anything to lose.

Yes, she enjoys all the attention from being centre stage. The more people the more she loves it!

I knew someone like that at college. she was pure poison actually, but sooo witty that everyone used to laugh at her jokes. I sometimes wonder where she is now, and if she has any friends.

I agree, life's too short to spend time with people who put you down.

yes, think brie van der kamp perfect poise, feet of clay!

Its'nt Honesty the best policy? I like it when my friends are really honest with me, it always tends to be something I deep down know anyway, so it's like a kick up the backside which .... is what friends are for...??/??

Ref comment about sorry I think she needs taking down a peg or two

1. give her the cold shoulder - start on the phone - look out the window whilst she's talking & when you reply you'll have a different uninterested sound about you.
2. Say you're busy when she suggests you meet up & then her about a friend of yours that has a problem with a 'friend' (ie her) see if she gets it.
3. Say thanks, I do feel quite good today when she insults you OR say, HMMMM, perhaps you should take a look in the mirror & check yourself out...OR, OOOh people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones

Otherwise I would just bite the bullet & tell her you & the other girls are getting a bit bored of her childish comments.

She sounds like a very clever well-practised bully.

Think about it, if anyone challenges her they're going to be instantly on the outside, aren't they? With her inside with her gang? Her remark about the dope was just nasty, however smartly delivered.

Do you see any of the other girls in the group by themselves? I would start by making sure that, if she says anything snide to one of them, that you ask them separately if they were hurt. I think that might help break her hold on you all.

sorry but that is no friend - even if it is in the form of 'wit' the whole world is ready to criticise and pull you down - no point in sharing your time with someone who is not an enhancement to your life......i would disagree on the good friendship qualities - we all have to deal with crap in our lives we don't need it added to by 'friends'