Friend not speaking to me - how can I make amends?

[strawberry]

My friend is not speaking to me. I'll try to be brief. Yesterday it was my ds's christening and her DH's birthday. On Friday she asked if we wanted to go for a curry for his b'day and said we'd like to but would have to let her know as we had lots of family staying for christening.

Well my mum and dad are in the middle of a divorce and in the end I had to 'babysit' them which was fine - family first. The christening was in the afternoon but by lunchtime I was in tears and totally stressed. DH's family turned up at the house 2 hours earlier than invited and the whole thing was a nightmare. With all this, I completely forgot about his b'day, forgot to phone to say we couldn't make it for the curry, and forgot to give him his birthday card. I feel really bad about this - I hate letting people down and was wrong of me.

We have tried phoning and texting to apologise and explain but no response. I understand they are cross with us but they didn't even get a card for ds's christening and left at the earliest opportunity.

I really want to make it up with them but don't know what to do. Very upset about it all as I'm sure they are too. What do you think I should do?

You have already made the first move by phoning and texting them. Maybe they haven't responded because they are out or busy?

I'd probably feel the same that they were annoyed with me but you have done all you can for the moment, leave it a few days and then try and contact them again if you don't hear from them.

When would you normally see your friend again?

I think if grown ups can take the hump over their birthday not being the centre of other peoples worlds, they need to grow up -- this is pathetic behaviour... not getting a card on your birthday is hardly the stuff life traumas is made from, is it?

I think if you really want to keep them as friends, send them a letter to explain and leave it at that..

agree with mancmum!

I'd leave it for today and try again tomorrow. Ok be annoyed at not being told you weren't going to make it but they knew it was a busy day for you. Its a bit pathetic getting the hump cos someone forget their birthday they are adults.

I'd expect a friend to be a bit more understanding about the stress I was under if my parents were in the middle of a divorce on my baby's christening day, tbh.

Tbh i think you have as much right to be annoyed with them, as they have with you....they come to your ds's christening and don't even get him a card??? Thats not a very 'friendly' thing to do is it.

You've tried. What more can you do? I think you should leave them for a few days. I'm sure they'll come round. They are probably still in that angry stage

I guess I will have to give it time for the dust to settle. Wondered about calling round with some christening cake...