I am pregnant with DC3, after a significant gap. DH and I kept it to ourselves for a long time (Only told DC at end of term) but now we have started telling people, he's put the news up as a facebook status, so it's not a secret. I have told my Father and my foster family (long story, really) but haven't been able to contact birth mother, nor have I really tried to contact my Sister.
I'm expecting that at some point Father will get around to telling my sister, but I don't feel I want to make any effort to tell her. I feel I want to tell her, but when she had her DS, I found out she was pregnant when I dropped everything to support her and father when my Stepmother died, and she never bothered to tell me when he was born either. What I don't want to do is to make more effort towards either of them (Sis or Mother) since I seem to be an afterthought in their lives - or possibly in the case of M, no thought at all...
However, just putting it on my facebook status where they should both see it seems cold and I was wondering which way I'm being silly - undersensitive towards them (they are my blood, after all) or oversensitive (they don't seem to give much of a flying fuck towards me)
So, What would you do? Put off Facebooking the news until I've spoken to them, or fuck it and pretend they're not important?