Liar Liar

[macdoodle]

I should probably name change but oh well. I know I'm being ridiculous but need some MN straight talking.
My hideous abusive XH is well documented on here, we have 2 DD's 9 and 3, have been seperated 4 years and divorced a year.
I started a relationship with a new man 2 years ago, he was lovely and kind to us, but just not right and a bit too needy, and I wasn't really ready for a serious relationship.
So in October I ended it, and felt very relieved. He continued to send me e-mails telling me he loved me and asking if we could be friends, if he could stay in touch with the girls.
We continued to chat as friends, but didn't meet up. Sometimes the converstaions became flirty and a bit sexy.
Then I discovered he was seeing someone else who was apparantly besotted with him, all fine as I had ended it.
But I felt uncomfortable having some of the conversations we had been having if he was with someone else. After what XH did to me no way was I being the OW. So I told him I felt uncomfortable with the situation as he clearly wanted more than to be friends and I felt we were crossing the line with regards to his GF.
He then tells me he loves me not her and will end it with her, and will I meet him to discuss how we feel and if we do have a future at all.
I tell him I will not be involved in his relationship with another woman, and I cannot promise him anything, but if and when he is free to pursue me I will consider meeting him.
He then sends me his bank card details and tells me to book somewhere for us to meet the next time he is off (he works away).
I have not replied to any of his emails or texts. He is also still emailing my DD1 (age 9).

His new GF has now changed her relationship status on FB (yes yes I know) to in a relationship with him, and posted lots of lovely happy pics of him and her at NY.

So to me it certainly looks as if he is still in a relationship with her (and her seemingly unawares), but is still wanting to meet up with me.

He is a liar right? I didn't want him anyway, I was relieved when I ended it. So why do I feel sad and hurt. I am best to delete his numbers and emails right? Do I tell him why, or just continue to ignore him :(

Thanks all, am feeling very conflicted by this whole situation now, which is a bit rubbish as I was feeling much calmer and happier when we broke up.
Am feeling very guilty now by doing this by email, as that is how I ended it in October, I tried to do it when he was here, but he just wouldnt listen and kept talking me round. When I ended it, he said he didn't deserve to be dumped by email and I should have done it in person.
The problem is he lives far away and works away, so meeting up is an issue.
Am just keeping quiet now, maybe he will decide to stay with the girl who can offer him a sure bet, and I won't have to do anything at all, coward that I am.

He sounds like a nutter, tbh. Your 'reasonable radar' must still be off-kilter due to the abusive ex. The kind of person you'd want in your life long-term DOES NOT play forward-and-reverse emotional games, DOES NOT encourage one lover while telling another he really wants her, and thinks twice before giving potentially mixed messages to children.

He's using you to feed his ego. Cut him off.

You're feeling guilty??? Don't!

You were not born wearing a badge that says "I make men feel good." His feelings are not your problem, particularly as he seems quite happy to fuck around with yours.