I discovered in OCtober 1/2 term - on a family holiday, that my husband had been having an affair. I knew something wasn't right, as he was suddenly even angrier about everything I did/did'nt do, blaming me for all that was wrong in his life, coming home late, locking his phone etc. So, having got through 3 days of holiday knowing about his affair, whilst holding it together for the DCs sake, I confronted him on our return, and asked him to move out, which he did.
Since then, he has been living (in theory at least) at his parents, but in reality at OW's at least 1/2 the time. He is distant and cold to me, shouts at the DCs when he sees them, and up until xmas day, was telling me how wonderful things are. Anyway, as I've been working the last 3 days, he's been looking after DC's. But...suddenly, he's staying at his parents house, making effort for them at least, and very short tempered with the DC'c - swearing at them, and constantly criticising their behaviour and me (the same things he used to criticise me for when we were together). The DCs both tell me that Ex says he has "dumped" OW because she was treating him mike he was stupid, but not to me. Anyway, so I was considering things, and was thinking about would I take him back, but then consider how he's treated me over the last 5-6 years of marriage - mood swings, shouting when things aren't how he wants them, never helping with DCs, never tidying up after himself when I've been at work and him not etc.....
I then find out, through the powers of internet accounts, that he's still been in contact with OW. I feel such a fool for even thinking about him in a positive way.
Sorry for the ramble, just needed to vent. What advice would any of you give? Thanks 